Do hairdressers become friends with their clients? I miss him....how do I get over my crush?

[Yellowcrush]

Do hairdressers become friends with their clients outside of their work/hair or how would I get over my lovesickness

So this is an odd one. I started going to a new hairdresser about two years ago. I only really go about twice a year for trims and more recently I'm going down the colour route with him.

From my first appointment I liked him. He's personable. He's nice and funny. He's cute and handsome. I love his energy. He's just so nice. I have a little crush on him. I admire him and I love the work he does on my hair. Having said all this, I don't have any romantic feelings for him either. I just like him as a person.

I realised lately that I would love to have more of him in my life. He brightens my days up so much when I do have my hair appointments with him.

My last appointment was a few weeks ago. I went in with a massive sore head and hangover. He was so funny when he heard me moaning in his chair. When he put the heat lamp over me he asked me - will I be ok or will he come back to find me slumped over in the chair. He was so so so funny.

I realised that I would love to have more of him in my life but also I don't have any love interest in him.

It's so so so strange. I just like him.

I checked out his private social media and we have different lifes. We have two very different lifes and I have no idea how our paths could even cross outside of hair appointments. I don't even work in the city where he works. If I worked in the city I could nearly see where he goes for lunch, etc.

This is ridiculous. I don't love this man but I like him and I admire him and I would love to have more of him in my life because I love his vibe and energy.

I really like him but not as a lovely interest and I miss him.

Could you afford a wash and style with him once a week - as that would be a nice relaxed way to spend some more time with him, if finances allow? It also respects the fact that he is a professional, at work.

I'm not a hairdresser, but have always assumed that being friendly, asking you about yourself and being welcoming is all just part of a good service, to encourage you to come back. He's probably just nice to everyone, I wouldn't be sure about reading too much into it. But only you know whether there's a genuine connection there or not.

Also your post is a bit confusing - you say you don't have any love interest in him, but also that you're lovesick and have a crush? So it does sound like you fancy him and that's a bit different than wanting to be friends

It's so hard to describe. I like him as a person and I would love to have more of his vibe and energy in my life. He's just a fun guy during my appointments.

I'm certainly not reading too much into his friendly nature during my appointments. I just like his vibe and energy and wish for more.

Unfortunately my free time doesn't align with his free slots and I can't get an appointment with him until August. Maybe in the Autumn time I can aim for once a fortnight wash and blowdry.

I am not sure scheduling unnecessary hair appointments is the way to go .
It sounds more like a signal that you need some new people in your life so I would have a think about taking up a new hobby or volunteering.

You sound quite stalkery OP.
What if he doesn't want more of you in his life? Thinking about watching where he goes for lunch? Honestly that's just too much.

He sounds like a nice guy and good at his job, but he will fire you as a client if finds any of this out.

I think you are besotted with him and kidding yourself if you think you don’t have romantic feelings for him.

Are you single?

Hes someone who gives you full attention for 90 mims
and makes you feel seen and liked and special for that short time. Add to that he is handsome and funny, it must be quite addictive but you say yourself you don’t have anything in common. What do you see yourselves doing together?

Honestly ... you are being weird. It's his job to be nice to you. Leave the guy alone, if he wanted to hang out with you outside work he'd suggest it, but it's very likely he doesn't.

Martha?

I wouldn't be able to find out where he goes for lunch even if I wanted to due to working in a different town.

I just like him as a person and I would like to have more of him in my life.

How can he sack me as a client for liking him?
How could he find out.
I have no intentions of putting it into action of finding out where he goes for lunch.

I am not Martha.

how would I get over my lovesickness

Why would you need to get over lovesickness when you continually claim not to see him in that way? You're coming across very badly imo.