My sister comes to see me every week at my home and usually stays all day. From 12/1pm to 9/10 at night. I often feel like this is a bit much but I don’t know how to say I don’t want you to stay for dinner or can you come at 5/6 and stay for dinner? Sometimes it is nice to have her here all day but often I have a lot to do and she talks constantly so I don’t feel like I get the space mentally or physically to get on with things.
I love her so much and appreciate her but I wish she didn’t have so much free time.
This might seem like a strange one but I’m trying to learn to assert my boundaries with my sister and to find the line even of where I want my boundaries to be. she’s always been quite codependent on me even though she’s always said she doesn’t want a codependent relationship with a man. I’ve never pointed it out. Over the years when I’ve expressed I couldn’t talk when she called me for another epic conversation we’ve ended up have arguments because she took it personally and thought I wasn’t there for her. Help!!