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Another how would you split accomodation costs?

27 replies

Dryplate · 03/06/2024 20:22

I don't really expect int to be an issue, the people I'm going with are all very easy going and more likely to object if they feel they haven't paid their share than because they think they've paid too much, but on this occasion I'm the organiser and also (possibly) might end up with the best deal, so want to make sure it's reasonable.

It's a short trip to do an event. 5 of us, one married couple, 2 men and me. I've booked an apartment with 3 bedrooms, a double, and two twin rooms.

So married couple have the double, two men one of the twins (they're happy to share) and I'll end up with a twin to myself. Not intentional, just how the most suitable accomodation worked out.

So, do we divide the cost by 5 people, or 3 rooms?

OP posts:
RawCarrotsAndSaladcream · 03/06/2024 20:24

5 people

CherieBabySpliffUp · 03/06/2024 20:24

I would divide by the 3 rooms for the accommodation. Then divide by 5 for food if that is involved.

LordSnot · 03/06/2024 20:26

Tricky since per person will benefit you over the others, so might be awkward for you to suggest it. If you can afford it I would suggest per room: it works out more for you but you have the benefit of a room to yourself.

spriots · 03/06/2024 20:27

I would usually say split per room but since you have done the organising and it doesn't sound like there is other suitable accomodation, I would probably say per person but then you pick up some wine to share or breakfast pastries or something that would work for your group

FLOWER1982 · 03/06/2024 20:29

Per person.

PossumintheHouse · 03/06/2024 20:31

Per person, but I'd bung an extra £50 into the food/drinks kitty.

dammit88 · 03/06/2024 20:34

Id split per room and see what they say. Its the two sharing the twin room that are mostly disadvantaged

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Dryplate · 03/06/2024 20:38

dammit88 · 03/06/2024 20:34

Id split per room and see what they say. Its the two sharing the twin room that are mostly disadvantaged

If we split 5 ways I pay less than if we split 3 ways, but everyone else pay more.

The married couple are the slightly unknowns, I've never been away with them before. The two men will be falling over each other to make sure they pay for everything, one because he's very well off and enjoys treating people and the other because he hates to feel indebted.

OP posts:
NDmumoftwo · 03/06/2024 20:39

If you're the one benefitting you should offer to split by room. To which they should all say "oh no we'll split by person especially as you're organising" and if they don't you just come back on here and moan about them

mewkins · 03/06/2024 20:41

Split it 5 ways.

Northsouthmoggie87 · 03/06/2024 20:58

Split it 5 ways, if they suggest per room, take the double room!

HaPPy8 · 04/06/2024 05:21

Dryplate · 03/06/2024 20:38

If we split 5 ways I pay less than if we split 3 ways, but everyone else pay more.

The married couple are the slightly unknowns, I've never been away with them before. The two men will be falling over each other to make sure they pay for everything, one because he's very well off and enjoys treating people and the other because he hates to feel indebted.

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I think this is even more reason to offer per room.

if you say per person you look a bit like you are having an advantage. If you say per room, you don’t look like this and it’s very likely from your description they will offer to pay a bit more.

Fintoo · 04/06/2024 06:14

If you have organised and would be the one at an advantage by splitting per person, I would offer per room. I think you would come across as a bit grabby if you don’t. They may offer to split differently, in which case you could buy a bit more of the food and drinks

kiwiane · 04/06/2024 06:21

Per person seems fair - presumably the couple wish to share and benefit from the double room? The guys you say are generous and wouldn’t want you to pay more.

Changingplace · 04/06/2024 06:29

Per person, I always think this is the fairest way.

Sammysquiz · 04/06/2024 06:36

Is there a midway option? So you could say ‘I was going to suggest we split it 5 ways but realise you might feel that’s a bit unfair as I get a room to myself, so how about we do that but I pay for the taxi to the event/buy the first round/pay the Airbnb cleaning fee’ etc. Shows you’ve acknowledged the issue, though don’t choose something which works out more expensive than if you’d split it per room!

Soontobe60 · 04/06/2024 06:39

In this situation I’d split per room. Why should the 2 men pay the same each as you when they have to share a room? You should pay more than each of them for the benefit of having your own room. However, if the double is a nicer room, maybe the couple pay slightly more?
Just because someone earns more doesn’t mean they should pay more btw.

curlysue1991 · 04/06/2024 06:43

Just ask?... Give them the breakdown of what it will cost per person or per room, mmdjority rules😂

Bigredpants · 04/06/2024 06:48

Yes I’d do it 5 ways but just bump yours up a bit. What PP said. Round up the amount for you and round theirs down or pay for taxi/round of drinks etc.

OrangeLemonLime24 · 04/06/2024 06:49

I agree with @Sammysquiz. I think that’s a good message to send.

For those saying it’s unfair to pay per person, I’d argue that it isn’t as there isn’t another suitable option re. sharing. If it were 5 females, then per room
seems fairer but, as it is, who would you share with if you didn’t want to pay for a whole room for yourself?

Grapesgrapes · 04/06/2024 06:58

Per person. It's not your fault there isn't an even number of people going. The married couple want to share and the two men want to share. None of them want to share with you. It would be different if only women were going and you wanted to sleep alone.

Bananasplitz97 · 04/06/2024 07:11

I would ask then if they want to split per room or per person and say you’ll go with the majority.

SheilaFentiman · 04/06/2024 07:21

”Hi all… the cottage is £1000. We could split it per person - easy maths, £200 each - or per room, so £333 for me and £166 for each of you.

Given we are all sharing the lounge and kitchen but I get a room to myself, I thought a halfway house would be best - so I pay £240 and you all pay £190 - does that sound fair? “

Coconutter24 · 04/06/2024 07:34

SheilaFentiman · 04/06/2024 07:21

”Hi all… the cottage is £1000. We could split it per person - easy maths, £200 each - or per room, so £333 for me and £166 for each of you.

Given we are all sharing the lounge and kitchen but I get a room to myself, I thought a halfway house would be best - so I pay £240 and you all pay £190 - does that sound fair? “

Looking at that it doesn’t seem fair to op to split by room as she ends up paying double what the others are. PP seems the fairest way everyone pays the same

SheilaFentiman · 04/06/2024 07:41

I agree that it’s not fair to pay entirely by room, as there are presumably communal areas in which OP gets 1/5 not 1/3 of the space. given this is a group of friends, I would assume they will be at the wedding or hanging out in the cottage lounge with the bedroom mostly just for sleep

Hence my intermediate option.