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SM post creating furore among my aquaintances

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Dryplate · 03/06/2024 11:25

It's not mine, but someone I know through friends.

She's a single mum, seems lovely and "normal". It's been no secret that's she's been OLD and hoped to find a partner. Recently she got together with man we all know through an event we attend regularly. Everyone was pleased for them, he's very sociable at the event and most people know and like him. He's one of the newer attendees, but has been coming regularly for about 6 months. She posted her new relationship status on FB and everyone was "aww that's lovely", although not something I would have done, I was pleased for both of them.

Anyway much furore yesterday because she's out up another post, with his photo, along then lines of "don't trust this man he lied about being separated". She removed it almost straightaway, but not before it had been screenshotted and sent to lots of chat groups. People were genuinely shocked I think, leading to widespread sharing.

I was out with a group of friends yesterday, male and female who all know both parties to greater or lesser extent. Most seemed to think it's a terrible thing he's done (although obviously we don't really know what actually happened) , but that it was even worse of her to put his personal situation and behaviour on line.

Personally, I don't think she should have posted, I'd want to keep it private, but not for the reasons everyone else seems to think. I'm struggling with the idea that she's the one in the wrong here.

I don't know what the truth is, AFAIK he started coming to our event when his marriage broke down, but I guess it's possible he didn't tell his wife that!

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Josette77 · 03/06/2024 11:27

If he lied about being separated he's in the wrong.

He fucked around and found out.

SapphireSlippers · 03/06/2024 11:28

Was it a lie?

Guess not

Livelaughlurgy · 03/06/2024 11:28

It's worse of her to tell the truth about him than for him to lie to her and betray his wife. Give me strength.

LemonCitron · 03/06/2024 11:30

On what planet is what she's done worse than what he's done?!

(Assuming her post is true of course.)

gamerchick · 03/06/2024 11:31

Id stay well out of that me. No.good.comes of it.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 03/06/2024 11:32

You're coming across as quite biased here OP.

Yes, she shouldn't have posted it even momentarily but...

People were genuinely shocked I think, leading to widespread sharing.

You're making excuses for their absolutely unacceptable behaviour.

She was hurt, but they were gossiping. I know who I'd have more sympathy for.

YourMommaWasASnowblower · 03/06/2024 11:33

The modern way - the reaction being condemned more than the action that led to it! I don’t blame her for calling him out on it.

What I actually think is worse is everyone screenshotting it and using it for gossip.

Dryplate · 03/06/2024 11:38

TwattyMcFuckFace · 03/06/2024 11:32

You're coming across as quite biased here OP.

Yes, she shouldn't have posted it even momentarily but...

People were genuinely shocked I think, leading to widespread sharing.

You're making excuses for their absolutely unacceptable behaviour.

She was hurt, but they were gossiping. I know who I'd have more sympathy for.

I agree. I was really surprised to be sent it, by a man, who'd been sent it by another man.

The post was long gone before I even saw the messages.

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