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Would you save your pet or a stranger's child?

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NotADailyMailJournalist · 02/06/2024 22:11

Hello all

Slightly inspired by another thread where posters were surprised that people were more interested in someone's dog than their baby...

If you have a cat/dog and you could only save it or a stranger's child/baby, what would you choose?

For the purposes of this thread, no-one would ever find out you'd been given the choice, so you wouldn't face any consequences.

Thanks

OP posts:
StarDolphins · 02/06/2024 23:01

I will get totally stoned for this but I absolutely love my dog so so much & I would save him🙈

spottyhotdog · 02/06/2024 23:01

JellySunset · 02/06/2024 22:54

I am hugely empathetic and definitely not a sociopath. My different opinion does not make me wrong. I am a vet though so I see how pet loss can quite literally kill people. I know the same happens with child loss but why can’t the parents save the child whilst I save my dog (and cats and guinea pigs and rats)?

This.
I've had a dog & cat pts over the last few years and lost another cat who was hit by a car outside my house. If I knew it had happened sooner, I would have rushed out to get her to a vet myself to try and save her. Their loss is still raw to me.

Basicallyluls · 02/06/2024 23:01

Op so you were rooting for the pet answer! Look if you don't have a child you haven't experienced how innocent they are, how much unconditionally you can love them. A child's love really is very intense and different. It gives you instincts to protect all children. So even if you don't feel like that now, you are very likely to feel differently in the future. Especially if you have love for a pet.

WreninaDarkNook · 02/06/2024 23:02

I should've known people would have looked at that instead of everything else I said.

I'd not sacrifice her for someone I've never met and don't know, is the crux of the matter for me. She's been better to me than anyone I know, let alone ones I don't. Many of us could help change/save human lives more than we do and we don't do it.

I also note that about psychopaths/sociopaths. Still being debated as is all of our exploration of the human psyche, and most of them aren't bad people. I'm not offended to be described as one, despite knowing that I am not.

ConfusedConfuse · 02/06/2024 23:03

Strangers child

HappyGoLucky96 · 02/06/2024 23:03

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Why? My spaniel is the only thing that keeps my own mum going everyday you won’t believe the story’s I could tell u about the dog, she’s very very smart my mum has had 3 heart attacks and the dog has never left her side since the first one it’s unbelievable so yes I would my we spaniel she now lives with my mum and comforts her everyday and night

Hyperions · 02/06/2024 23:04

How close are we to the child geographically? Because I spend way more on my cat than would improve /save the life of a child on a different continent.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 02/06/2024 23:05

I love my dog. I joke about him being my favourite child. If someone else's child and a dog were in a room, I would play with the dog more than the child because im not that intetested in other peoples children ( although I'm desperate to hold a chubby little baby again) However, there would be no question that I would save a strangers child over my dog!

NotADailyMailJournalist · 02/06/2024 23:05

Psychologymam · 02/06/2024 22:59

thanks for shouting at me - that doesn’t particularly make it better, you just now like a loud person with scary tendencies! Good to know you don’t care too much about kids as long as they aren’t related to you, must make watching the news these days much easier.

I'm not shouting at you, I'm using caps to emphasise the distinction between MY child and a STRANGER's child so you can correct your misunderstanding of the original question.

Anyway, no-one here is saying they don't care about kids, just that some care about themselves/their pets more.

OP posts:
Talipesmum · 02/06/2024 23:05

NotADailyMailJournalist · 02/06/2024 22:15

Ooft, unanimous so far! Perhaps people are too scared to fess up on a parenting website that they would choose their dog?!

Can you say WHY? (One of you has said instinct)

OP why don’t you do a voting options thing if you think people are just trying to make themselves look good? You’d get anonymous responses then.

BambiSkate · 02/06/2024 23:06

LordPercyPercy · 02/06/2024 22:56

@BambiSkate the Harambe thing was a disgrace. He was completely let down by whoever designed that enclosure, and the child's idiotic parents.
Also, and I'm sure this is controversial, I'm not sure why anyone is so confident about prioritising humans over gorillas, ethically. The gorillas are certainly rarer.

I know critically endangered species versus 1 of 7 billion.
The child dying would have been a tragedy for the family yes. But harambe dying was a tragedy for the world

NotADailyMailJournalist · 02/06/2024 23:07

Basicallyluls · 02/06/2024 23:01

Op so you were rooting for the pet answer! Look if you don't have a child you haven't experienced how innocent they are, how much unconditionally you can love them. A child's love really is very intense and different. It gives you instincts to protect all children. So even if you don't feel like that now, you are very likely to feel differently in the future. Especially if you have love for a pet.

Nah, I knew the answer would be stranger's child. But interested in the debate.

OP posts:
ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 02/06/2024 23:08

Always child, but particularly so today as the cat is being extra arseholey.

Crispynoodle · 02/06/2024 23:08

💯 child

CheeseyOnionPie · 02/06/2024 23:09

Interesting question OP!

I think in a scenario where someone is looking at a drowning strangers child and their drowning pet, they would save the child first of course.

BUT…if it’s a non-specific scenario where either the pet dies (don’t know how or when or where) or an unknown unseen child dies (don’t know how or when or where) and your decision is totally secret then I think more people would opt to save their pet.

DimplesToadfoot · 02/06/2024 23:10

My dog is my reason for living, I'd love to be able to say I'd save her over the child, but I couldn't. My conscience would make me save the child, then I'll jump off the nearest motor way bridge

Shiningout · 02/06/2024 23:11

HappyGoLucky96 · 02/06/2024 23:03

Why? My spaniel is the only thing that keeps my own mum going everyday you won’t believe the story’s I could tell u about the dog, she’s very very smart my mum has had 3 heart attacks and the dog has never left her side since the first one it’s unbelievable so yes I would my we spaniel she now lives with my mum and comforts her everyday and night

And do you not consider what loosing a CHILD would do to a family? Fuck me some of the answers on here are mind boggling. People admitting proudly they would rather see a child die than a pet just because it's theirs.

Proudofitbabe · 02/06/2024 23:12

The child of course, or an adult for that matter.

NotADailyMailJournalist · 02/06/2024 23:12

I want to start a new thread now "why do you buy luxuries instead of sending all your money to buy anti-malaria nets given you love strangers' children so much"?

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StarDolphins · 02/06/2024 23:16

Shiningout · 02/06/2024 23:11

And do you not consider what loosing a CHILD would do to a family? Fuck me some of the answers on here are mind boggling. People admitting proudly they would rather see a child die than a pet just because it's theirs.

But everyone is entitled to feel how they do? If the question was your mum (or someone else very important to you) or a strangers child, should you have to choose the child just because it’s a CHILD?!

WreninaDarkNook · 02/06/2024 23:16

Not many people are that bothered that 1000s of children die around the world every day, until it comes to things like this, where everyone is talking about how devastating it is for families to lose children. Yes it is devastating. And if those of us with a bit more money and/or clout all got and/or did our bit, we could help prevent it. But we don't. Now, we're given a hypothetical scenario where we'd have a straightforward choice requiring not much in the means of critical thinking and we all apparently feel differently.

Starlightstarbright3 · 02/06/2024 23:16

A child obviously . A child who has there whole life ahead of them . I can’t imagine living with the guilt of been able to save a child’s life over a dog

Incakewetrust · 02/06/2024 23:18

Before I had children, I would've said my pet, without a doubt.

Now that I'm a mother, I 100% would save the stranger's child.
My dog is my baby but I couldn't put him before the life of a child.

Lighteningkip · 02/06/2024 23:18

The child without question although I'd be devastated to lose our dog. Losing a child is a completely different sphere of grief and tragedy.

IndecentPropolis · 02/06/2024 23:19

Because it’s hypothetical, I’m immediately drawn to saying I’d choose my dog, because I know and
love him. But if it came to it of course I’d save the child.

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