Tell me good things about leaving a job that made you utterly miserable

[theuniverseisworking]

Hello everyone,
I have come to the conclusion that my job is making me utterly miserable & even unwell.
High pressure, impossible expectations, managing a mixed team, some of the team are very challenging. I'm a single mother, I spend my weekends worrying about work & my working week worrying that I don't spend enough time with my children. Everything is rushed. I feel like I'm doing a lot of things badly because there is just no time to do it.
A friend has told me they 'miss the old me' & has offered to help me out financially while I look for another job that's less exhausting.
They have a disposable income & said I can pay them back in 5 years if I want!? I know they mean it.
One of my children is struggling with his mental health & I feel like I am too.
Has anyone just given notice & left?
Feel like im disappearing.

I'm about to leave without another job lined up.
Has been a potentially amazing job but a toxic narcissist of a manager. I am hopefully about to get a settlement agreement which takes the financial pressure off. Currently ok stress leave.
Like you I am concerned about how it will all look but I can't control that.
I will probably just say I haven't been well (without specifying why), and that I've decided to leave and take a break before starting something new.

Take a few days leave- even sick leave- update your cv and take another job. Go on linked in, take a job locally that is remote / hybrid if you can depending in what you do.

Talk to a couple of agency people. Don't leave unless you have another job. The fact you are leaving will make it easier. 9-5 and take your lunchbreak.

After I left, I wondered what had taken me so long

Yes me too!

I left retail management.... I'd had enough. Customers were the reason. They were vile. The public were mainly Rude and entitled.

I left and joined the prison service. Much happier working with prisoners

I've recently handed my notice in without anything to go to, as I'd found that my job was making me more and more unhappy. My notice period is 3 months so I knew that I could spend that time really focusing on job hunting and now I've told work, the pressure of the role has totally lifted and I'm feeling a bit more like myself again. The plan is to finish work before Christmas, have a little bit of time off and then start a new job in January.
Since I've started telling people at work that I'm leaving, I had another person tell me they did the same thing on the same day, and 3 people ask me to take a look at their CVs for them.

I still feel relief at leaving a job after 2 years. Low level sexual harassment, manipulation by the director, watching cash in hand deals and not knowing what to do and not wanting to be complicit. Other people in the business (members of the directors’ family) not turning up or doing their role so having to cover for them and having no HR or way of managing this. And them laughing telling me how much more than me they are paid!! Don’t give away your sanity.

Find another job first or have a clear and reasonable plan money wise.
best of luck xx

Oh and I've seen that an old employer who was a money grabbing narcissist has managed not to submit tax returns for several of his businesses.

Oh dearie me, not making the millions and building the empire he kept alluding to??