Trans child and counselling

[FatFemale]

Advice please. My friends son is trans and has lived in this way for a couple of years. On the edge of leaving school. I know the child is hoping for surgery at some point. I was talking to my friend and asked if the child had received any counselling about this? Whats out there to help them see if it’s definitely what they want as obviously its a life changing no going back operation plus the drugs etc. friend hadnt sought this and didnt know what’s available. Shes a bit of a wet lettuce when it cones to taking any action about anything. So im here to ask advice

No offence but I can't really see why it should be your business how your friends child chooses to live their life. Maybe your friend doesnt feel like they need advice and are happy just trundling along and seeing what happens. Maybe this is the advice she's already been given and she is following it through.

Sorry that sounds overly snarky - I didn't mean it to be. You no-doubt just want to be the best friend you can be. However, this is such a sensitive and personal thing, you need to be really careful that the child doesn't misinterpret your best intentions - you may not know all of the story. Just be a supportive sounding board when your friend asks you to be.

Perhaps she's just thinking that if she doesn't give it any space it will just fade away. She might think she's almost giving it her stamp of approval if she says 'let's get you some counselling'.

No, I'm not surprised. It seems quite common to just focus on that end goal, not to consider counselling. Seems a shame. I doubt there's anything that you can do.

https://www.therapyfirst.org/ - therapists who believe in therapy as first and potentially only treatment, so the kid may not be willing to see them. The mum could phone all the local therapists she can find until she gets one who sounds good and who is open to her child’s future choices, whatever they are, but mindful of the regret young people like Ritchie Herron and Keira Bell are now living with.

Your friend should try to find an impartial therapist to help her child navigate these feelings and where they come from. There’s no going back from hormones and surgery and too many young people have regretted making these changes.
My trans identified daughter is adamant she’s always felt like a boy but having watched her grow up as the most stereotypical female girl despite my best feminist efforts, I know she’s been swept along in a social contagion as are so many young women and girls. It’s a huge risk your friend is taking by not addressing the issues causing her child to feel this way.
https://thoughtfultherapists.org/