My 88 year old DF was put on end of life care 11 days ago. He has pneumonia from aspirating and a bowel obstruction that is inoperable due to his age and fragility.
He’s comfortable and has been on a syringe driver for over a week. He is very heavily sedated. He hasn’t had food for 11 days and stopped being able to drink fluids about 3 days ago. We’ve been called in twice due to breathing changes but they have righted themselves both times. His breathing is now even and shallow.
He has lost so much weight that he looks almost unrecognisable and I’m finding it all so painful. I feel totally numb and that I have no more tears left to cry. I am finding it so hard to cope with and can’t quite believe I will never speak with my dear old Dad again.
Has anyone had any experience of this? Particularly it all lasting so long?