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How do I get over my crush

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Yellowcrush · 01/06/2024 19:50

I am a fully ass grown woman. I have a partner. I am engaged although we don't have any plans and it's not going well lately. I really shouldn't be crushing hard on someone.

After the pandemic, I went to search for a new hairdresser and a hair stylist was recommended to me. I loved the work he did on my hair for my first appointment. I was going to him regularly for hair trims since then. About three times a year. This year I got my first bleach and colour from him. My crush grew strong for him.

He is gay and there's no harm in that. He is adorable. I love everything about him. His vibe. His energy. Not to mention the work he does on my hair. He's just an all around fantastic and I really love him. I love him as a person. I would love just something like a friendship to occur between us but I doubt it.

My crush is so strong now.
I have no idea how to see him outside of a hair appointment.

Help me.

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MissFlimpkin · 01/06/2024 19:55

You have a crush because your relationship isn't in the best of places so a crush on a gay man is safe in your mind, and most likely acceptable. Masturbate, have a fantasy, move on. And in the mean time assess what isn't working for you in your current relationship.

Yellowcrush · 01/06/2024 22:27

MissFlimpkin · 01/06/2024 19:55

You have a crush because your relationship isn't in the best of places so a crush on a gay man is safe in your mind, and most likely acceptable. Masturbate, have a fantasy, move on. And in the mean time assess what isn't working for you in your current relationship.

My relationship is utterly sexless from my partner. It was originally from my partner and now it's been so long (I think 3 years) without any action. He can get it up for masturbating but not for me. Everything outside of the bedroom and he's good but the bedroom is unreal.

I liked my hairdresser when I first went to him.
He has that happy, energetic, cute, gay vibe about him. My crush only ever grew and grew. I really like him now.

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Sapphire387 · 01/06/2024 23:10

Why on earth are you engaged to a man who won't have sex with you?

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Yellowcrush · 01/06/2024 23:29

Sapphire387 · 01/06/2024 23:10

Why on earth are you engaged to a man who won't have sex with you?

We got engaged before that and then the sexlessness hit. Now I am torn. He's good outside of the bedroom but I am not happy any more due to the sexlessness.

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Yellowcrush · 01/06/2024 23:29

Whatever about the man I am engaged with, I am in love with my hairdresser.

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Howbizarre22 · 02/06/2024 00:34

Sounds like limerence- look up the living with limerence blog online

Shirtdress · 02/06/2024 00:35

Yellowcrush · 01/06/2024 23:29

Whatever about the man I am engaged with, I am in love with my hairdresser.

You’re not in love with a man you see three times a year for a haircut. However, your relationship isn’t working. Focus on getting out of that.

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