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Constructive advice needed please on how to deal with OCD (particularly to do with health/contamination)

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OhSeeDee · 31/05/2024 19:36

I have always had low level OCD but it’s heightened since being pregnant. My worries mainly focus on ingesting things I shouldn’t, such as cleaning sprays when cleaning, plastic in food, out of date food etc.

My latest worry is ridiculous. Some paint was peeling off the wall so I scratched it with my fingernail, then went to wash my hands. I am now concerned (and unable to rationalise this one) that somehow, I didn’t wash my hands thoroughly enough, the paint was under my nail, I could have put my hands in my mouth as sometimes I bite my nails, and I may have ingested paint.

Typing it out, I see how bloody ridiculous it looks. I am sure I haven’t bitten my nails this afternoon. I know I washed my hands. There might not have even been any paint on my finger in the first place. And so what if I did eat it? My immune system would deal with it/stomach acid would break it down no problems and it wouldn’t affect baby at all

That’s how I would advise someone else, or myself on a more level-headed day. The problem is sometimes I get a scenario like the above in my head and ruminate on it for hours, and it stops me from being able to do anything else. I usually have to seek reassurance from multiple people and even that doesn’t satisfy me fully, I seem to just move on after a few hours myself.

Is there a way to nip these thoughts in the bud? Obviously it’s not a sustainable way of thinking and something I need to get a grip on, pre-pregnancy I managed OCD traits quite well but it seems I have more to worry about now :) x

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ShatParp · 31/05/2024 19:43

Sorry to read you're going through this OP, I could have written this! My youngest is 4 and I'm still struggling internally (I try my best to keep it under wraps!) so no advice but wanted to say you're not the only one and I think it's very common for it to get more intense during pregnancy, mine certainly did. Hope you get some good support.

OhSeeDee · 31/05/2024 19:45

ShatParp · 31/05/2024 19:43

Sorry to read you're going through this OP, I could have written this! My youngest is 4 and I'm still struggling internally (I try my best to keep it under wraps!) so no advice but wanted to say you're not the only one and I think it's very common for it to get more intense during pregnancy, mine certainly did. Hope you get some good support.

Thank you for commenting. Did you get thoughts like this in pregnancy too? I’m just so worried anything I do could affect our little girl, even though rationally I know she’s more than fine xx

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ShatParp · 31/05/2024 19:52

OhSeeDee · 31/05/2024 19:45

Thank you for commenting. Did you get thoughts like this in pregnancy too? I’m just so worried anything I do could affect our little girl, even though rationally I know she’s more than fine xx

Oh yes, lots of those sorts of thoughts and some far crazier ones so don't worry! 😁 it's so hard to really believe that they're irrational no matter how much your logical mind tells you! My only tip that works for me is to allow the thought time to dissipate. So I could obsess about something but I'd allow myself time to let it gradually go, and it DOES go, without checking/asking for reassurance/googling, etc. I'd allow myself to feel that worry and accept it if that makes sense? It's so intense growing a new life inside of you and the responsibility feels like a huge weight at times and I think it sends our minds into overdrive. Hopefully someone with some useful advice will be along soon! Xx

Notthegodofsmallthings · 31/05/2024 19:52

https://maternalocd.org/#:~:text=Maternal%20OCD%20is%20a%20charity,obsessive%20compulsive%20disorder%20(OCD).

Please tell your midwife, they will be used to this and offer you the support you need. You will be ok and so will your baby, I promise.

Welcome to Maternal OCD

https://maternalocd.org/#:~:text=Maternal%20OCD%20is%20a%20charity,obsessive%20compulsive%20disorder%20(OCD).

NewUser1111 · 31/05/2024 19:56

Hey OP. Sorry to hear you’re going through this. I also have had bouts of OCD/ rumination/anxiety and it is very tough. Are you getting support for your mental health in and after pregnancy? I hate to say it but I fear esp in the weeks and months after birth, with all the hormones and sleep deprivation, can be a bad time for those of us with vulnerabilities and it would be good to get some support in place just in case. Hope this passes soon.

midlifepisces · 31/05/2024 19:57

Really normal but do speak to a therapist experienced in treating people with ocd 👍🏼

Tygertiger · 31/05/2024 20:00

You have to be strict with yourself. “This is my silly OCD talking.” Do NOT google. You think you’re getting reassurance, but it’s just feeding your fear as the very act of googling confirms in your brain that there is something to worry about (there isn’t). And if you can, confide in someone you trust - I used to ask DH if <whatever my fear was> was something he would worry about - and then I would listen to him. It’s really hard, but you can absolutely get through this.

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