Neighbours in social housing depressing me

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Just that really. I knowsome social housing estates are nice, people are kind etc, but mine … not so much! There’s some petty anti social behaviour, aggressive dogs and public swearing bouts between a few of them, and a general lack of friendliness. There are a few OK neighbours who (understandably) keep to themselves.

I just find it depressing, plus we all live in a courtyard design so everyone sees you coming and going and everything you do.

Don’t get me wrong, I am very grateful for the security of social housing, which I fought hard for. I have made my flat nice inside. But I don’t like going in and out of my own home if that makes sense. I have been in private renting before, not a good experience, but at least it was in normal streets with mostly normalish people, and not feeling so exposed to this.

I could try home swap but worried it could be a case of frying pan/fire, plus my age and a chronic illness would make it a major upheaval.

It’s one of those threads where I don’t really know why I’m posting or what I’m asking! Am I just stuck? Maybe I need to reframe it, accept it, or what, I just don’t know. Any ideas? I’m sorta going round in circles…

I can assure you you can get this in any neighbourhood not limited to HA

on the plus side HA normally have a scheme manager they will and do evict problem tenants

if there all homeowners your fucked there going nowhere

Thanks, maybe you’re right rwalker. Though I have two friends who live in their owned homes in a street and have perfectly nice neighbours (not guaranteed I know). I think part of the problem is that we’re in this courtyard kind of estate of flats, so we’re on top of each other too, exacerbating things. I feel I need to do something maybe, accept it or reframe it. But which?!

Just be glad it's nothing to do with you, avoid them where you can as in not stopping to say hello, and be nice to your good neighbours. My last flat, within days of moving in I had my downstairs nutty neighbour accusing me of running around all night, and someone outside shouting to someone else early one morning "You're a dirty whore, and now everyone knows", and at night in the flats opposite me just drunken shouting all night. I just kept to myself as much as I could

Wasn't housing or council estate either, just bad side of the city

I think flats do attract more antisocial behaviour than houses, and that's true in both the public/private sectors, because people that can't be housed elsewhere are often put in flats! I don't have a solution for you, apart from put your headphones in and march where you are going, but it isn't the best.

It might be worth a swap though, I went from one private house to another and my neighbours are much nicer here.

Close to where I live is a really scruffy street, old rusting cars, graffiti, throwing their crap in the street, stinks of weed, really crappy area ( could be really nice if they looked after it a bit) I often walk through this street on my way to the town centre and always give the residents friendly nod as I pass. They always give a friendly wave and comment on the weather in passing. They all look a bit rough but always acknowledge me.
I'm not saying you should be best mates with them but sometimes a friendly wave and a nod in passing can go a long way

on the plus side HA normally have a scheme manager they will and do evict problem tenants

The last bit should be true but unfortunately it is rarely true.

Yes that’s often the case @TheYearOfSmallThings

And thanks everyone else for your thoughts.

It was good to get off my chest on a thread and at least not be shouted at that I’m entitled lol.😂

I am always polite /pleasant to neighbours, even the ones who have been rude to me or ignore me. But I don’t fit in here, and it feels uncomfortable sometimes. I always sense a kind of edginess.

Maybe I should think about swapping in the future …. It’s just a massive amount of faff especially when I’ve got my flat so nice.

Anyway, as I said, good to get off my chest.

No advice but just wanted to say that I’m sorry you have to deal with that- your home should be your sanctuary and it’s horrible that you don’t feel comfortable coming and going.