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Can I report my abusive neighbour ? WWYD ?

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Abusiveneighbour · 31/05/2024 10:28

I live in a terrace and my neighbour is very verbally abusive to his girlfriend. They don’t have any children.

They have been there a couple of years and it has always happened. I work at home and can clearly hear it which is very distressing.

Could I anonymously report him to the police as I am concerned that she is being coercively controlled. I don’t know what his surname is.

We have shared access so I would be scared if he found out that I reported him.

Would the police do anything ? WWYD ?

OP posts:
FloofyBear · 31/05/2024 10:48

I'd personally ring the non emergency number for advise - but I'd certainly do something

ForLovingGreenDog · 31/05/2024 10:57

You can absolutely report what's going on anonymously to the police. You can dial 101, ask for police to do a safe and well check, as you think domestic abuse is happening. Alternatively, you can contact your local constabulary or police station and tell them what's going on. There should be a domestic abuse officer. Give them as much detail as possible, with examples of what you've heard or witnessed, how often it happens, and, if possible, when the most recent incident was. Coercive control is a heinous crime, so well done for taking action.

Thelnebriati · 31/05/2024 11:03

I recommend following the advice ForLovingGreenDog gave and talk to the domestic abuse officer.
The alternative is to report anonymously using Crimestoppers online.

You could also contact Women's Aid, they should know what services run in your area.

Abusiveneighbour · 31/05/2024 11:09

Thank you I had a look online and I can do a report to the local police but I have to give contact details.

thank you @ForLovingGreenDog I will have a look at crime stoppers.

It concerns me as I am aware how his abuse could be escalated by him knowing to has been reported but I just can’t sit and listen and do nothing any more.

I was a victim myself in a previous relationship so I know how hard it is to leave when you are in that situation.

OP posts:
magnoliasweets · 31/05/2024 12:18

There is an organisation called Fearless, which is part of crimestoppers, and allows you to report entirely anonymously. Please give them a try.

PunkGigi · 31/05/2024 12:21

Don’t feel you have to put yourself at risk OP.

But Fearless, an anonymous organisation, sounds a possibility.

Hermittrismegistus · 31/05/2024 12:26

We have shared access so I would be scared if he found out that I reported him.

If you live next door then they'll guess its you that reported anyway, especially if the police say they've had reports of disturbance through the day and you WFH

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