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The moment you knew it was over…

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Cucumberflo · 30/05/2024 17:07

There has been threads like this before but feeling another one…

My ex of 12 years….I started to hope he would do something terrible like cheat or break the law so I had an excuse to leave him after years of him being completely uninterested and unenthusiastic about anything to do with me, family life etc. Turns out all I had to say was I want us to separate 😂

Leaving my last job….when even the cleaner asked why I wasn’t transferring the the team that had been headhunting me for 2 years!

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Tarkan · 30/05/2024 17:16

DC's dad. When I knew something was wrong and I went snooping, a MN no-no I know, but I found purchases for gifts that hadn't been for me, emails to different family members asking for money saying I was spending it all (I was paying bills and dared to replace a pair of holey jeans for myself, he used to constantly go abroad leaving me and DC with no money, maybe £20 for a week if I was lucky), and just so much stuff regarding other women and posts on porn chat forums.

He'd first had an emotional affair just a few months in and I forgave him then. And the next time. And the next and I basically put up with it over and over for 10 years until I was a shell of my former self and thought I was doing the best thing for the kids.

I finally found my strength to kick him out after reading posts on MN about emotional abuse and realising how much crap I was putting up with that wasn't actually my fault.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 30/05/2024 17:19

When after two years of trying to rebuild a marriage he kicked a damned great hole in my efforts and then told me that everything was my fault and I'd 'brought it on myself.'

I wasn't even upset, just relieved to have it finally done with. The night I came back after giving him a few hours to clear his stuff out was the last time I cried over it - and that was with relief, as well.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/05/2024 17:30

We went on a romantic night away for our anniversary (his idea, I paid) and he sat on the bed playing on his phone for two hours. When I tried to kiss and cuddle him and he didn't want to he said he found me so unattractive having sex with me would be fake. I was 8 months pregnant at the time (baby also his idea)

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/05/2024 17:30

We went on a romantic night away for our anniversary (his idea, I paid) and he sat on the bed playing on his phone for two hours. When I tried to kiss and cuddle him and he didn't want to he said he found me so unattractive having sex with me would be fake. I was 8 months pregnant at the time (baby also his idea)

so did you leave??? and if so, how long after that?? Is he still in contact???

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Cucumberflo · 30/05/2024 17:40

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/05/2024 17:30

We went on a romantic night away for our anniversary (his idea, I paid) and he sat on the bed playing on his phone for two hours. When I tried to kiss and cuddle him and he didn't want to he said he found me so unattractive having sex with me would be fake. I was 8 months pregnant at the time (baby also his idea)

That’s awful! Did you leave after this?

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Cucumberflo · 30/05/2024 17:41

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 30/05/2024 17:19

When after two years of trying to rebuild a marriage he kicked a damned great hole in my efforts and then told me that everything was my fault and I'd 'brought it on myself.'

I wasn't even upset, just relieved to have it finally done with. The night I came back after giving him a few hours to clear his stuff out was the last time I cried over it - and that was with relief, as well.

Completely get crying with relief!

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