Sympathies. I think this is going to make you a bit of an MN outlier tbh, but you're far from the only one.
I can only talk about myself here and wouldn't use the word recovered tbh.
For a long old while I just dealt with what life chucked at me before I got to the point of having time to think about myself much. By that time I'd developed into a pretty convoluted shape.
So maybe what age you start makes a difference, and it depends what exactly you're talking about, so I don't know how much sense I'll make.
No funds here either, but tbh I also deeply resent the idea of being robbed of childhood and any sort of normal life as a young woman, and then having to work to pay to try and sort out what was done to me for the rest of my life, when so much of my life was taken and ruled by the decisions and valuations of others.. The option's never been there, so perhaps that's fortunate in a weird way. One less thing to deal with.
Developing a dark sense of humor, and recognizing that sometimes the most awful things have some sort of pay off for something somewhere, has been useful for resilience.
Balance is everything. If the situation is skewed hard in one direction, balancing it out can help. You then try to shrink the extremes. Hope is also everything. Nurture it.
For me, accepting that it may be easier to accept some lesser maladaptive behaviors, than futilely trying to fix them. Life's awful short.
Learning to try and be a bit kinder to myself and treat myself closer to how I'd treat others, or at least recognize that I wasn't.
Recognizing that other peoples sense of superiority to you and your reactions, often comes from where they see themselves in relation to others, not how they see themselves in the context of their own deficiencies.
I don't know at what level of difficulties you might be talking about.
I guess it may depend what the character traits are and if you 'adopted' them, or if you had them effectively offered to you as the only 'safer choices' and can now see that.
So for instance there are practical exercises you may be able to do about something like 'people pleasing' or 'fawning' as they're common and well understood responses, but less common responses that are routed in specific hard to be believed things done repeatedly, don't necessarily have much understood about how to treat or change them, and one may have to come to terms with just living with some of it.
I don't actually know, I'm just aware that so many of my apparent less helpful (to me) 'character traits' I had very little choice over if I wanted to survive, but others are 'maladaptive reactions' to growing up in such an intersectionally fucked up situation...
I think identifying why I do what, is it healthy/unhealthy, how damaging is it and most of all how does/did it serve me, and actually does it still serve me? has helped me modify some things at least on the surface to be able to get through life...
Sometimes someone turns out to have written something useful that can help shed light if you have developed specific 'survival mechanisms' that served you well enough at the time, but now don't. I'd advise googling scholarly articles rather than more popular stuff, especially if you're dealing with weirder stuff. Sometimes there's no answers, but just finding out that others might be known to have reacted these ways too, or that there is a name for something you thought was unique to your situation, can sort of help.
I can't say that some behaviors don't continue to rule my life and negatively, but I'm still here, and we're all a work in progress.
I hope somewhere in all that is something that is useful, and others might have much better answers.