I didn’t get revenge on my cheating ex - did you?

[MyNeighbourJohnToturro]

He was as bad a H as you could get.

Among other things he lived a secret life for 15 years and gave me an STI gaslighting me into believing it was my fault.

‘Don’t forget JohnTorruro you were a right slag in the noughties!’ Is what he said.

I didn’t crush up a load of fresh chillis and rub the gusset stitching of all his freshly laundered underpants when he came home from a weekend of visiting sex workers just before I packed up and left him . Nope I didn’t.

Is there anything you didn’t do but wish you had?

All lighthearted banter of course..

Nope. I left him to the OW who demanded to know where he's been and who he'd been with because (pause for laugh here) she didn't think she could trust him. And who threatened suicide when during the two years of our marriage breakup he came back to me (briefly).

The thought that his life was probably going to be hell was more than enough revenge.

No I didn't but I wish I had. I thought about buying a bunch of mealworms and other nasty creatures and filling his car with them ready for his journey to work in the morning, but didn't.

Yes I went on to be incredibly happy without him and viewed him cheating on me the best thing that could have happened, despite how painful it was at the them. I eventually met a new partner and have a life that I am genuinely happy and thankful for.

Meanwhile he is still roaming about, looking for happiness but never achieving actual real genuine connection.

the best revenge is to live well!

If I was looking for a lighthearted revenge then I would have shoved frozen prawns into the air vents all around his house the final time I went to pick up my stuff.

sorry for everything he’s put you through OP, you don’t need a sorry and you don’t need revenge to be able to heal and be happy

No, getting revenge is childish. I take comfort from being happily married and thankfully not to the cheating ex who is, incidentally, now divorced.

No. My ex left when I was 8 months pregnant with DC2.

He has nothing to do with the DC now and very little when they were growing up.

He's happily married with two DC and I've spent 17 years single handedly raising our children.

I could have made his life a misery but never did.

I just wish karma would hurry up and bite him on his arse.

I haven't been cheated on but I think exacting revenge is childish and bitter. I'd like to think I would walk away with my dignity intact.

I got the best revenge. A life lived well and proving him wrong.
He told me I'd never earn enough to be able to live on my own and manage. And that I was messing about trying to have a career and thinking I was clever.
I not only did very well in said career and got a doctorate, I also earn a lot more than he would be able to in his job. So I can manage and live on my own after all!

Fabulous!