Finally settling into my bed after a bit of a tough night. Me and my partner have a 2 (and 4 months) yo and 4 month old
I don’t feel like I’ve been a person since we had our eldest. I feel like I’m multiple people if that makes sense? I don’t feel like an individual and I’ve changed. My priority is solely them which it should be but I haven’t prioritised our relationship or myself/wellbeing
so weve got into a bit of a muddle. But when the kids went asleep we chatted and spoke about what we need to do. We analysed we both have 2 main aspects of ourself to work on. And a joint one is parenting style. We disagree on this a bit but we’re trying to find a middle ground
it was draining as the talks of splitting up came into it. I’m positive we can get better and back to a newer version of us. My kids have changed me and I’d never do anything differently. But maybe I need to look after myself a bit and our relationship
nb: when I say look after myself / well being etc, I mean take some time alone exercise, go on dates with my partner, get my hair/nails done. stuff to make me feel good