Title doesn't show the complexity of the situation and I won't go into it here as there is no short version. But I need tips on how we should approach conversations with my MIL, who has over the last 4 years become increasingly judgemental, easily put out, upset with others etc to the extent that her marriage is about to fall apart, she has few friends left and we've also had words. She is very quick to see fault in others but cannot hear an alternative view, and any pushback, no matter how lightly given is met with anger and 'devastation' if she feels the slighted bit of criticism is being put at her door. We are at a total loss as to how to handle future conversations in a productive way. We really want to resolve and move on in a positive way but I'm feeling less and less sure that's an option. Any advice on how to approach talking to her in a way that isn't going to end up with her getting angry or us feeling like weve had to bow to her ways?