I might be over thinking all this I don't know. Kind of hope I am.
I have written about situation before but at different times and stages.
A while back now dd was in a DV relationship. Its was 3.5- 4 years ago . I'm loosing track of the time a little. He went to prison etc social services were heavily involved. Partly because she contacted her ex whilst he was in prison. She was very close to getting her child taken away it was one of the worst times ever..
So social services closes the case about 4 months or so ago .
Dd had a boyfriend she's been seeing for around 3.5 years ish could be little more . They have a baby together. They broke up a couple months back because he was being nasty to her verbally. A few weekends back he beat her up police were called statements taken he's on bail until the start of June. No contact allowed.
Dd was still in contact with his mother. And was going to arrange for the mum to take baby so her ex/babys dad can see the baby. Anyway through the grape vine dd heard that her ex was slagging her on in a violent manner. So she contacted his mother and said she's not willing me meet up as he's clearly full of anger and she does not want that round her son.
There had been a merlin report . But for some reason it took 2 weeks for social services to make contact. Anyway social services have said she done all the right things and they don't feel they need to be involved.
They did advice dd not to have any contact with her ex or his mother until the start of June when the bail and no contact lifts. She also said its up to dd if she lets him see the baby but it must always be supervised. But she also made it clear you don't have to let him see the baby if you don't want to.
So that's all the back ground.
The things I'm worried about is
Dd has not once contacted the police for any form of update. And she's not heard from police since she gave her statement on the day.
I worry that after the start of June she will let him see the baby. Then before you it he will be back in het flat again and sooner or later he will Hurt her again.
Dd reply on me for alot of support . But she's also hard to be around. I Baby sit 3 times a week. We also do the school run together. Because our kids go to the same school. I do this because I want her to be able to do positive things with her life. Maybe feel better about her life and achieve some things. I don't mind doing this.
But I also want me own time and space. Sometimes I see stuff on social media that she's written things like I'm.really not coping right now. And simlar comments . My instincs tell me to ask her if she wants to pop over. But then. As I said she is hard work to be around and everything becomes very stressful and I feel like I need a break . Plus I have my children as well and they get stressed by her to.
I have completely lost what I was trying to say . But im really scared she's going to end up with a repeat of her first ex. Possibly dead.
On a positive note she has changed her gym. She's doing an exchange so he won't know where she lives . So maybe I'm just over thinking .
DD has bipolar its recently diagnosed and not yet medicated . I mentioned this incase its relivent