Question for those with knowledge of crystals, healing, energy

[Nori10]

I have a diamond ring given to me by the mother (who is still alive in case that makes a difference). It was given to her by my dad who left her (and me!) for another woman. She kept the ring and attached a sort of symbolism to it based on how many diamonds there are. The number of diamonds 'represents' the number of us that were 'left' when my dad left.

It's a beautiful ring, but I can't bring myself to wear it because I feel like it just symbolises negativity and sadness. I want it reset in a more modern style, before I do that, is there a way of cleansing it of any bad energy? I just want to be able to see it in a new and positive light!

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The only thing you need to change here is your attitude to it. It's an inert bit of shiny carbon -- it doesn't have any 'energies' of any kind, positive or negative. If you want to wear it, wear it, if it has negative associations for you, don't. But it's in your head either way.

It's your mindset that needs changing, not the ring.

Try to see it for the piece of pretty metal that it is, and it should make it easier.

X posted with @LoveStories who said it better.

MN is probably not the place to ask this because most MNers are very angrily opposed to these kinds of beliefs.

My mum is into this kind of thing (I'm not really a believer but I think it's mostly harmless) and I know she has "cleansed" items and almost definitely crystals, yes, before.

I would find a local crystal/woo type shop, take it in there and ask for their advice. They will probably be able to do it for you or let you know what to do in terms of crystal "mythology" and I doubt it will cost very much if anything. They will understand and take your query seriously.

Because they're stupid, baseless beliefs. The OP, entirely understandably, has mixed feelings about this item of jewellery because of her associations with it. She either chooses to deal with them, recognising that the associations are her own, and seeing the resetting of the jewel as her making her own, more positive associations with it, or she chooses not to wear it, or sell it.

I mean yes, those are things OP can do, but you can also stick it in a bath of salt water, or waft some sage around, or say a prayer or put it in a purple velvet bag with a rose quartz or whatever else is suggested and have that ritual help change the associations for you.

Lots of people assign meaning to ritualistic actions and find that personally helpful. I've seen several threads over the years where a MNer or a close family member has either died, or been close to death, where hundreds of posters have put up pictures of lit candles. The idea that a candle can help a soul pass over is "baseless" too, as in there is no logical way that it could help, but many, many people gain comfort from it and it most people would think it very harsh to refer to it as stupid, even if they didn't want to light a candle themselves.

Thanks for the replies. I do understand it probably sounds ridiculous, but honestly, every time I've tried to wear it, I just haven't been able to look at it and just see a pretty ring. I'm just reminded of the sad association my mum had with it. I suppose I was hoping that by performing some kind of 'cleansing' type ritual I might feel better. Even though I appreciate it would probably just be a placebo effect.