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I'm utterly utterly utterly utterly depressed

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Yellowcoke · 24/05/2024 15:09

I think it was last year, maybe around September it hit me. I am able to function and get up and go to work. I enjoy working on my laundry and haircare every week. However there's so much happening.

-I can go weeks between showers

  • I used to love cooking and receipes and healthy eating. Now I buy foods and most of the fresh stuff goes to waste.
  • I used to live looking after my teeth and now I go to bed every night without brushing my teeth.

I am not in a good place.

  • I was getting harassed for a long time and the police never took it seriously. Solicitors bounced me back to the police when I tried to sort this through civil law. I got nowhere and the person who's doing it still raised her ugly head and right now the abuse she's doing is about once a month. It's all demands focusing on an arguement from 10 years ago while she threatens to wreck havoc on my life. It's been years of punishments and revenges from her. If she just kept it to her bad words, I could handle that but she's desperate for attention she went down the route of my partner, my work, my family, - there was no end to her and she still continues to this and likely until I have nothing left. I am not responding to her.
  • my mother is behaving erratically with some intense behaviours, moods and outbursts and I strongly suspect a behavioural variant of dementia. She's so odd. Often she's spaced out in her own world and she looks confused. This week she spent all week dragging the same pieces of furniture all around the house.
  • I am weeks and weeks behind on work and paperwork. The load is unreal.
  • then is all hit me very hard in April - everyone was after me while I was trying to help my partner through surgery.
  • then I have another bad realisation about our relationship and I don't think me and him will ever be sharing any sexual intimacy together any more. It's been off the table for years from him.

All of this is too much for me.

OP posts:
KathieFerrars · 24/05/2024 16:47

You poor thing. Depression is horrible. Are you on any medication?

Yellowcoke · 24/05/2024 17:18

KathieFerrars · 24/05/2024 16:47

You poor thing. Depression is horrible. Are you on any medication?

No, I haven't been to my doctor yet and I am on no meds.

OP posts:
Yellowcoke · 24/05/2024 17:18

I'm functional but dying inside.

I'm getting too much aggression from the harassment and now my mother. It's just too too too much.

OP posts:
KathieFerrars · 24/05/2024 17:53

I really recommend going to see your GP. Is there anyway you can distance yourself from your mother?

I think one thing positive you could set yourself to clean your teeth. Just something small but YOU matter, you really do so cleaning your teeth - even if it is fairly cursory- would symbolise this.

There is a lot of expertise on the mental health board. Also, perhaps just speaking to someone to articulate this like phoning Samaritans, may well help.

Good luck. If you feel really bad over the weekend then go to your local walk in centre.

FatAndFiftySomething · 24/05/2024 19:50

Yellowcoke · 24/05/2024 17:18

No, I haven't been to my doctor yet and I am on no meds.

I think this might be a place to start.

Write things down that you want to say, so you don’t forget. Tell him/her about the ongoing harassment, bathing, supporting your partner, your teeth, and your mother.

Tell them you cannot support your mother at all and they must find someone else to do that. Say your main worries ie dementia, and hand her over to your GP. They will know who to contact.

Do you live with your partner? Is leaving an option? Or, not now, but in the future?

But make your GP a priority and get signed off.

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