Too many texts?

[NachoCheesed]

Just read a thread where a few posters have said they think 3 texts a day is needy whilst apart from DH.

I've just looked, DP and I have texted 42 times and we had a phone call too! Am I needy? What the general consensus?

There is no rule. Whatever works for each relationship is fine. I'd say the content and intent is far more important than the amount.

How on earth do you find any time to get any work done?!!!

I've been off today but he's on a 12 hour shift - a text takes seconds to send?

It doesn't take long to send texts unless each one is an essay.

I'm sorry - but you're breaking off from work each time to read, think about and then compose those texts. So you're not working.

Really? So you work constantly throughout the day with no breaks? 23/42 are from him so over half

How dare he look away from work for a few seconds to send a text! They should FTB - Fire the bastard!

I've exchanged 37 texts with DH in the past 7 days. No phone calls (the last call to him was over 2 months ago). So I'd find that needy!

That does seem excessive, what couldn’t wait for you to have a conversation when he got home?

i am probably skewed on this however as i am on the opposite end of the spectrum to you. My partner went to work in the US for two weeks and we shared a total of 4 messages.

I couldn’t cope with that level of texting and a phone call. If there was something serious going on maybe but general chit chat and small talk 42 times sounds so pointless when you will see him
after work.

As long as it works for you both then it’s fine. It’s only an issue if one of you wants more than the other.

My BF would prefer phone calls to texts, but I hate the phone, so we text maybe 3-4 times a day, one to say good morning and wish each other a good day, one during the day, maybe a photo or gif etc and a little “thinking of you, hugs” etc same later, and then a good night message. Each of those may consist or 4-5 separate messages to it could easily be 20 each.

He spends ages composing thoughtful messages, answering each point and asking pertinent questions. Maybe he’d find it less work to just send a laugh-y face emoji and some kisses!

We don't live together so see each other a few times a week

That’s a bit different then I suppose in fairness.

Dh is away at the moment. I’ve just counted and we have averaged three texts each a day.

42 messages is definitely too many. It comes across as clingy and it would be a massive ick for me.