Planned Csection avoiding MIL birthday

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I have a very fractious relationship with my MIL following a long history of toxic behaviour. I'm due another baby in the summer near MIL birthday and am planning an elective section. I appreciate I might have no real say in choice of date but really want to avoid the day before, of and after her birthday. Is this something I can mention to the hospital or would I just sound incredibly childish. I just don't want any excuse for her to commandeer another event in our lives!

I got to choose, I told my doctor I wanted my baby born on Valentines day. He scheduled me an appointment to come in to get induced it didn't work. Asked if I wanted to come back the next day. I was miserable and ready for baby so I told him no baby comes today. They wheel me back for c-section. I had a medical issue that wouldn't go away unless baby was born.

I was given a choice with both my daughters. Hopefully your MIL is no where near as bad as mines! But sounds familiar 🤔 lol x

I felt like this too but I didn't want my csection on my first child's birthday and they would have the same birthday. I explained this and they were fine about it. Spread it as much as they could and my csection was for medical reasons. Just ask :)

I also wouldn't want my baby to share a birthday with my MIL. I feel your pain!

If you have a good relationship with your obstetrician and/or your midwife I would mention your worries to them. Not a medical emerge cy exactly, but if they're planning anyway..... So no, yanbu. Just try and be discreet about arranging the date so as not to aggravate you mil even more.

What! What difference does HER birthday make in all this.? Anyway what a joy to share your birthday with your gorgeous grandchild. If you get a say in it have it when it suits YOU

I got the choice of 2 dates - one happened to be my dad’s and the other my mum’s birthday, there was no other choice. Went with my dad’s purely because it’s 2 days earlier!

It was up to my consultant when I had my 2nd section. A midwife checking me over with weeks to go said it would be next week (baby before Christmas) and the hospital only do scheduled sections on certain days of the week. I saw my consultant 3 days after and he said he wasn’t prepared to bring a baby before its due date (1st Jan). We had bought quite a bit of Christmas related clothing and were quite excited about having a newborn just before Christmas. I went in on a Thursday and was in over new year! Not really what I wanted but I never had a say in when I wanted it.

I refused 24-26 December. No one had any problems with me coming in a few days later as long as the baby was OK.

They offered us a date but it was my husband’s birthday and he asked if we could have a different date so they scheduled the day after instead.

Just ask for what youd prefer. If pushed, tell them why. They dont care if you are childish or not. Its either a goer or not :/

post deleted: I didn’t read the OP properly 🙄

I had a planned CS for my third child. The days which they offered were when we had 3 days of family birthdays one after another and I just explained that I really wanted her to have her own day. There was no other availability that week and so they allowed me to be sectioned the week before a few days earlier than it would normally have been done.

I was offered any day in week beginning x date so you should get a choice. I would want to avoid any other close family members birthday even if I liked them so don’t worry about that

Ask and tell them why.

You may well be overtaken by events, in which case I'd reccomend emigration to Kuala Lumpa. Or find an untraceable poison ....

If your baby is born on your MILs birthday you have a good excuse to never attend her birthday party again!

They were fairly accommodating in avoiding the anniversary of a serious bereavement for me

I’ve had 3 planned c-sections and they were always exactly a week before my due date. My youngest was due on the 2nd January so they booked me in for the 27th December rather than the 26th (Boxing Day) but otherwise there was no leeway with dates and I certainly wasn’t given a choice. Although my youngest was born in 2012 so I’m sure things have changed in the last 12 years.

I wasn’t given a choice, but there was a date I’d have refused if given it.

My obstetrician I asked me what date I wanted the delivery. I couldn’t choose so I asked her to. I really wish I’d done some research. My DD shares her birthday with Hitler and international weed day 🤦🏼‍♀️

I've had two c sections. Both for medical reasons though & not elective.
I didn't get a choice either time. Just got told that's the date.
Neither actually happened on that date. My first ended up being born two weeks earlier than planned due to complications and I went into labour with the second so had an emergency straight away.

I do think it's a bit crazy to mess around with the dates over a family birthday. But if it's truly elective and just a preference choice perhaps you'll be able to.

My friend requested 1st week of September but got told those dates were already booked. She was given 29th August which she was upset by as it meant her daughter started school a whole year earlier. BTW she was c-sec for medical reasons.