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Dog put to sleep

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Justanothermum9421 · 22/05/2024 18:28

Hi all,
We very sadly had to put our beloved dog to sleep yesterday morning. I am utterly devastated and carry so much guilt around it - I know I would've beat myself up however things had unfolded and ultimately I know in my heart we did the kindest thing. I just can't believe he's gone.
This time last week he was absolutely fine, he vomited and had bloody diarrhea on Thursday morning. We thought a normal tummy bug and that perhaps he had inflammation from the diarrhea so left it that day to see if he would perk up a bit the next day. On the Friday he went to the vets as he had more bleeding who sent us home with lots of meds. We couldn't get these in him as he was off his food by this point and kept spitting tablets out. Saturday we went back and they hospitalised him, he was there until around midday on Sunday having IV fluids and painkillers, when they were happy for him to come home. We were to keep an eye and bring him back if any deterioration, but honestly I didn't really feel there was an improvement after having watched him for a couple of hours. By Monday evening I knew he had to be PTS. He was shaking in pain, panting and kept falling over when trying to stand, still had bloody diarrhea, wasn't eating. We made an appointment for the Tuesday morning. He was even worse, wouldn't drink, couldn't stand. The poor boy was so so weak. One of his legs has swollen to twice the size of the others. We took him and he passed peacefully, in all honesty I think he was utterly unbothered by anything at this point and more than likely already had one paw out of this world.

I don't know why I'm putting this here. I guess I'm just processing, but I'm utterly heartbroken, and absolutely devastated that he was in so much pain for those five days. Please don't come for me, I've already beaten myself up so much about what I could have/should have done differently.

I feel I will never be able to let him go. He was truly one of a kind and my heart is hurting so much.

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Enough4me · 22/05/2024 18:31

Sorry, you clearly did everything you could and loved him very much. Would it help to post more about what happened or to post the things that you enjoyed? X

Errolwasahero · 22/05/2024 18:35

So sorry. Absolutely you did all the right things. You had to try, you weren’t to know he’d get worse; if he had improved you would have felt it was worth it!

Keep hold of the happy memories xx

bozzabollix · 22/05/2024 18:37

Oh I’m so sorry. I know the heartbreak. Nobody will come for you unless they’re a monster.

You did the kindest thing, your dog didn’t know what was happening and had no pain, the pain is yours now. It’s horrible, we did it a year ago and I occasionally well up.

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takemeawayagain · 22/05/2024 18:42

It's a shock when it all happens so suddenly rather than a gradual deterioration. It sounds like you did absolutely everything you could.

whyhavetheygotsomany · 22/05/2024 18:43

So sorry I know that feeling and it's horrendous. I can honestly say I was beside myself. I started walking the strays at the kennels and ended up bringing one home that was so in need of a home. He helped me as much as I helped him. It really was the best thing g I did. So sorry for your loss. 💐

Ihateboris · 22/05/2024 18:45

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's truly heartbreaking isn't it? I had to have my beautiful girl put to sleep last October, and I still miss her so much. 😢 Sending hugs

shockthemonkey · 22/05/2024 18:48

Never would I “come for you”, nor I’m sure would anyone else.

I really feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss and the trauma surrounding his last days. It will take time to get over… take care

OldieButBaddie · 22/05/2024 18:59

Oh you poor love, it is so traumatic when this happens. It sounds to me like you were very responsible owners and did everything that could have been expected of you, no one expect a dog to come down with a stomach bug and it to end like this. Please be kind to yourself.

We had a similar thing when our last dog had kidney failure. I got a second opinion from a specialist and I think she suffered during those days (and had the swollen leg too) and I wish I hadn't but at the time I thought I was doing the best thing for her as she was only 8. I acted for the right reasons, like you did.

indianrunnerduck · 22/05/2024 19:15

I am so sorry, your love for your beloved dog & the pain of your loss is obvious. Please don't be so hard on yourself or fear that people will judge you, I don't think that you could have done any more & I am sure that when the initial, raw shock is over you will be able to believe this.
I have walked in your shoes and can say that it is truly heart breaking but it is an act of bravery and love to act on their behalf when their suffering is too great.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 22/05/2024 19:16

When I had to have my cat put to sleep, he was only 8 to 9 years old, the vet said to me it’s the quality of life that counts, not the quantity.
You gave your dog a brilliant life, he was secure and loved, and when he needed you most you let him go gently without any pain.
A big hug from me.

Bovrilla · 22/05/2024 19:22

What you did was pure acts of love for your dog best buddy. Making that decision for them is the hardest and greatest act of love we can perform for our pets. Hold onto the love, and good times and know he is at peace and you did everything on your power x

Justanothermum9421 · 22/05/2024 21:23

Thank you all for your kind comments, it truly means a lot. I'm beyond devastated and I know it'll take time to recover from this.

My boy was such a sweetheart and he didn't deserve to suffer in that way. I'm gutted for him.

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Justanothermum9421 · 22/05/2024 21:26

OldieButBaddie · 22/05/2024 18:59

Oh you poor love, it is so traumatic when this happens. It sounds to me like you were very responsible owners and did everything that could have been expected of you, no one expect a dog to come down with a stomach bug and it to end like this. Please be kind to yourself.

We had a similar thing when our last dog had kidney failure. I got a second opinion from a specialist and I think she suffered during those days (and had the swollen leg too) and I wish I hadn't but at the time I thought I was doing the best thing for her as she was only 8. I acted for the right reasons, like you did.

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ I'm sorry for your loss, it truly hurts doesn't it.
Was the swollen leg as a result of kidney failure for your dog? Our boy was on long term pain meds and I wondered if they caused something else like kidney failure, or masked something more that could've caused all this. I just don't know

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LakeTiticaca · 22/05/2024 21:26

Letting a sick animal go peacefully over the rainbow bridge is the last act of kindness you can do for them. I know because I've done it. I cried for hours but I knew it was the right thing
No more pain xxx

OldieButBaddie · 23/05/2024 11:43

Justanothermum9421 · 22/05/2024 21:26

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ I'm sorry for your loss, it truly hurts doesn't it.
Was the swollen leg as a result of kidney failure for your dog? Our boy was on long term pain meds and I wondered if they caused something else like kidney failure, or masked something more that could've caused all this. I just don't know

It does hurt!
The swollen leg was because she was on a drip and the canula dislodged and pumped saline subcutaneously rather than IV. It's quite common I believe, you said your dog was on a drip, I would think that might be the cause. The vet should be able to tell you.

FWIW when both of my last two dogs died we went and got a plant and put it where their bed was and named the plant after them. It filled the gap and gave us something to talk to. Sounds pathetic when I write it down but we still have the plants!

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