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Should I end a friendship

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Mammy7 · 20/05/2024 00:57

My cousin and I have been super close for the last 10 years or more, she has always adjusted the truth and told little white lies, I always did nothing about them well most of them because the times I did raise them with her it would only be to be told more lies so I found it not worth it. They have progressively become worse as she is telling one lie after another and not being truthful about her actions. She’s been through a lot of stuff over the last two years marriage break home becoming a mam having to leave the family home etc, she has become quite loose around men in this time and ended up in some very sticky situations where police and social services got involved. To make a fresh start and to put all those bad experiences behind her she moved to a new house however 2 weeks in she has done the same things again getting involved with another man having him in her new house the person who it is happens to be someone I know he is a nice person but he has also had some problems with drugs etc. I feel upset that after giving her 2 years of solid support and comfort that she is doing it all over again and the reason she moved was to make a fresh start and focus on her little girl instead of running around with men taking drugs. So around this situation she has come out with more fabricated lies and I’ve just had enough, am I being over the top by raising my concerns? Am I in the wrong by ending the friendship? I don’t ever want anything in return for when I give support but I don’t like being told lies over and over. What can I say to her for her to understand how I feel? As when I have approached it she has pulled the jealous card, I must be jealous of there thing they have going on because he is also my friend. She has known him about 4 weeks and instantly become over familiar with him just like she has with the previous men. I feel annoyed she is prepared to make the same mistakes again and not prioritising her daughter. Do I sound jealous? I mean of course I like my friend she’s cosying up to but not in a million years would I ever want anything intimate with him.

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DustyLee123 · 20/05/2024 07:04

No, you don’t sound jealous. But you have to realise that she won’t change, so the best thing to reduce your frustration is to step away.

Mammy7 · 20/05/2024 22:48

She knows I’m really off with her atm, she has text a couple of times but when I reply she doesn’t even reply back so I just think what on earth! Why text me then not respond back? But you are right she won’t change everyone tells me this but they are bias

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