Feeling sad that my dc are growing up in a rubbish house

[LostInEarth]

It's really getting me down.

Me, dp and dc live in a rented house that has problem after problem. It's exhausting trying to sort it all, just for something else to go wrong. We're a bedroom short for what we need and it's just really depressing.

We will never be able to buy anything as dp cannot work much due to disabilities. We are trying to move through HA but it's very slow going.

The thought that our dc are growing up here makes me feel sad. Most of their friends have nice houses that their parents own. It makes me feel useless.

Anyone else feel like they're in this situation?

Op sounds silly perhaps as rented but can You decorate it really well so it's like a little oasis?

Homebase often has reduced paint due to tin damage.

It needs to be clean and functional. Happy homes are made with love and attention.

If the house is smaller then you’d like just get rid of clutter. My grandad lived in a flat and shared a bedroom with his six brothers. He spoke fondly about this.

I really don't think it matters that much. I grew up in a small house and it never bothered me as a kid. I used to play out with kids on the street in the summer and go to the park. That's what I remember the most.

I'm sure having a lovely big house is great, but you certainly shouldn't feel sorry for your children for not having that. They won't care.