My ASD DS is causing so much trouble with my neighbours

[EndOfMyTeth3r]

I've posted before about problems with my downstairs neighbours. They're shitty people in general (drugs, domestic abuse both ways, loud music) but they aren't being unreasonable to take issue with DS banging when he's having a meltdown. I'm actually with them on that one.

He does it because he knows it creates a panic response from me, because I'm scared of them. He looks me dead in the eyes and stamps as hard as he can. He's only 6. Diagnosed with ASD, PDA profile, having an ADHD assessment in two weeks time.

After a couple of months with few issues DS has set him off once again by stamping on the floor, now the neighbour has too reverted to hammering on the ceiling and screaming at me again.

I'm at my wits end with it. I'll be scared coming and going from the flat for weeks now.

Even school struggle with DS and they are a school for autistic children. They're really good, but he's extremely challenging.

I don't want to do this any more.

Moving isn't a possibility.

I've had enough 😢

Oh god, I’m so sorry OP. I live in constant dread of someone like that moving in next door. I have known two people who were driven to suicide attempts by the vermin they had to live around. It’s the noise I couldn’t bear. You sound like a decent, civilised human being, and so, if I were your neighbour, and you explained the situation, I’d live with it. But I couldn’t take noisy scumbags who don’t care, who make a loud noise to provoke and to let everyone they’ll do whatever they like, etc. My god, if I had the power I would crack down SO hard on anti-social behaviour. It ruins lives. If it was up to me, people like your neighbours would be herded together on estates for the anti-social. They don’t belong near normal, civilised human beings.

You say you aren't eligible for social housing, do you have a neurodisability consultant for ds?If you do, they may be able to support you in applying to get on the list due to medical disability. If you had somewhere with a garden, then he could take some of his frustration & anger outside, run off excess energy & maybe make things easier for you. It is difficult living in a flat with a ND child, my upstairs neighbours moaned when ds was having his meltdowns & I was having to do battle with him when he was refusing to go to school. Some housing associations on't run their lists through the council & you can apply individually to them to get on the list. School may also be able to support you as well, speak to the SENCO.

I'm so sorry you're having to cope with this OP and yes I do remember your other thread.