Would you be happy with this?

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Husband works abroad
Just had a baby and the plan was originally for the husband to come visit the newborn baby and stay for a month with paternity leave.

The husbands cousin announced his wedding would be in the middle of paternity leave.

So husband wants to cut the visit down to a week to be able to return and attend the wedding (abroad, in the same country he works in).

Would you be happy with that?

He could potentially come back later in the year to visit for a longer period.

Thank you

No!! Good grief he sounds awful. Doesn't he want to see his wife and child? (And why aren't they invited to the wedding?)

Absolutely no way, but I also know that my DH would never have considered it for a second, so I would never have been faced with deciding whether or not I'd be okay with it.

Not at all.

No way, but I wouldn't be happy with my DH working abroad to begin with.

This would be grounds for divorce! I hope it's the husband's first child as least then it's incompetence.

A husband who 'visits' his family? Visits?

He's not really a husband at all

I would divorce my DH if he did this.

No I wouldn't be happy. What loving father prioritises a wedding over spending time with his newborn and caring for his post part wife.?

Agree with everyone else. Unbelievable.
Also as other pp asked: aren't you even invited to his cousin's wedding?

When you say “husband”, do you mean he’s your husband? If so, wtf?

No, of course not. Why aren’t you living in the same country, particularly now you’re having children?!

No his newborn child and post natal wife are a far higher priority than a cousin's wedding, even a sibling's or parent's wedding tbh.

Dodgy as fuck....

Stop wasting your life and divorce him already.

Is there a chance that he could have another family in his home country - either legal or religious marriage.

His disregard for you and his new born is shocking.

Wtf

I was going to ask this too.

He is not being respectful Or sounding interested in the baby.

It’s not even like his twin brothers wedding which would still be bad , it’s his cousin’s - absolutely ridiculous.

major red flag that a man with this kind of attitude works abroad. When is he planning to relocate to where you live? Or you to him ?

I had a friend whose living abroad husband messed her about so much the kid is now 13 and has never met her father ie. My friends now ex-husband.

Agree with PP comments.

Where does he work. Where is he going.

Sounds like he has another family OP

So he has limited time with his newborn but wants to cut it by 3/4s to prioritise his cousins wedding, that would be divorce grounds for me. Any decent man in this situation would put his child and wife first.

Absolutely not. Good grief, is he bonkers?

I'd be absolutely disgusted in him.

It's not 'the newborn baby', it's his child who he has to parent from day 1! Why are you living in separate countries?

Just realised you've had the baby already, congratulations! He wasn't there while you gave birth and he's never met his baby, that is beyond sad. You can do better OP. Have you got support from your friends and family?

No I would not be happy at all with that.
How disrespectful

Thank you everyone!