Does anyone have any advice on how to help my grown up children with dealing with their father - he spent most of our marriage trying to convince me I was crazy by gas lighting me.
I have always tried to encourage my children - now in their early 20's - to have a relationship of some sort with him BUT he has consistently denied any blame for our divorce, he constantly lies to everyone about what a great dad he is, he has sucked any happiness out of every situation when they see him.
One child has now cut him off completely because of the distress it causes them and the other child is now close to doing the same.
I realised while listening to them both - that all the mind games and gas lighting he did to me he has transferred to our children.
They have previously tried setting boundaries and talking to him but none of this has worked.
Does anyone have any advise on ways I can help them cope? Most of the information I can find is about partners rather than parents.