Special Mum & Son things to do together

[Boymumtobe09]

DH & I are expecting a baby boy in a few months time which we are absolutely over the moon about. Since we found out we are having a boy DH has talked non stop about all the things he can’t wait to do with him - first football match, first rugby match, go karts, first pint etc which is obviously lovely for DH but I’m starting to feel like a 3rd wheel and baby isn’t even here yet !!

So boy mums, what are the special things you do with your sons? Would really like to have a memorable thing I do with my son that he can look back fondly on.

I grew up in a very girl heavy family & always went to a girls school so feel completely clueless about what little boys like!! I’ve asked DH what he did with his mum but he has a sister so sounds like his mum did the girly stuff with her and dad did the boy stuff with him.

I taught my now 30 year old son to bake/cook. We took care of the garden together. We rode bikes everywhere. Days out at museums. We did martial arts together. My ds really struggled through his school years with math and started to give up a bit in his gcse years so we studied together, with me retaking my math gcse with him. Me at college, him at school and we shared a tutor. He got his pass and did better than me lol.

It doesn't matter if it's a son or a daughter we just find the things they enjoy then get involved and encourage it.

My son runs his own landscaping business. To think that all started with us growing tomatoes on a window ledge lol

I would be talking to my husband about not presuming and parenting the child you get not the one you assume you'll have.

Thanks everyone - really lovely to read about such a range of things your boys love doing!

Re the posters who’ve said about not forcing stereotypes, I completely agree but I think until he’s here and starts to develop his own little personality then it’s quite normal to imagine them loving the things you do - DH def won’t be frog marching him down to the football pitch if he’s not interested

Ds1 and I watch tv together. We're watching Race Across the World right now. He's 17. We find something to watch together most nights and I love that hour or so with him. I am also the one who takes him out driving because dh gets too stressed. I'll be quite sad when he passes his driving test and we don't get driving time together any more. It's true that all the best chats happen in the car.

Ds2 loves clothes and charity shops. He's mainly on the lookout for football tops and the like. So we spend an afternoon every other weekend or so poking around shops. He's so excited when he finds something. He's 15.

Ds3 is 11 and we read together every night. We finish a book, go to the bookshop, take turns choosing the next book, read the first chapter in a cafe with a hot chocolate.

So all boys, just like all children, are different. You'll find lots of special things to do.

None of my boys play football, despite one having a huge collection of football tops. And they're not particularly interested in watching it either. So dh would have been very disappointed if he had hung a his hopes on taking them to the football.

I think the best thing you can do to build a good relationship with a boy or a girl is to introduce them to things you enjoy and try things they enjoy even if it's not something you think you enjoy. You'll come up with all sorts of things in common that you never expected and your child will appreciate the time you spent with them.

Remember things don't have to be dad things or mum things. You can both take him to see a football match, for example.

Mine are young adults now. It turned out that mine loves football so I take him because I love it too. We also have a shared love of the countryside and do lots of things related to that. Over the years we have done all sorts together. I spend a lot more time with him than DH does as it turns out, we just seem to have more shared interests (DH shares more interests with DD so they spend more time together). He had his first pint with his football friends not us and then took DD out for hers when her turn came, again without us, which is fine.

DS is 7 and we have a very close bond.

Yeah he goes to football and rugby matches with DH, but when he's hurt, it's me he wants. When he has nightmares, it's me he wants.
We do lots of arts and crafts things, baking, cheesy TV, building stuff. It's lush.

If your sons anything like mine be will have NO interest in watching any sporting activities! So I wouldn't worry for now as you don't know what his likes/dislikes will be for a good few years yet!
However me and my son (10yo) LOVE going for walks, nature, bug hunting, arts and crafts, beaches, cinema, bowling, gaming together, shooting hoops at the local basketball court, going for lunch/dinner, etc.
There will be loads of fun things for you to do with your boy when he's older, regardless of whether he enjoys sports with his dad☺️☺️