Pregnancy announcement

[ItsFreedomBabyYeah]

Growing up, I was very close with a cousin I'll call Diana.

As adults, we slightly drifted apart, due to me moving far away, but we kept in touch via email/letters & tried to catch up whenever I was in town.

Anyway at a recent catch up the conversation of TTC came up (as cousin is recently married). Due to the fact we had limited time & lots to talk about, I didn't push the matter, but cousin said something along the lines of "we'll wait & see what happens". Fair enough!

The very NEXT day, my aunt (cousins mother) phones my mother to let her know the good news Diana is pregnant & she's sorry she didn't tell me yesterday.

I get people wanting to wait until the 12 week mark to tell people, but cousin obviously knew & didn't say anything during our visit & it was one day before the 12 week mark.

I feel a bit hurt. Am I being precious?

Did she have the 12 week scan the day after? I’d say waiting till after the scan is quite important to a lot of people to know the baby is ok. That’s much more than just an arbitrary one day.

Yes you're being precious I'm afraid

Yes you are being precious. It's not about you.

You will never know, and do not need to know, why someone might not feel ready to share something like this with you. It almost certainly isn't personal -- it's to do with their own internal landscape. Don't make it about you and your hurt feelings.

Thanks! Initially, I was a bit miffed she didn't say anything, when she obviously knew. But you are right: it's not about me. I appreciate the insight

Thanks for the insight! You are right, ofcourse. It's not about me

YABU precious. Bit weird to come via mums but totally her choice

Well I'd be pissed off about this, too.

She could've told you.

That was my initial thought...

You obviously know your pregnant, but waiting to tell people.

Not saying I deserve special treatment, but someone you don't see all the time, you could have made an exception to say one day earlier..

It's OK. I'll live

Maybe she wanted to tell her parents first?

We saw family only days before we announced our 2nd child, we wanted dc1 to be the first to know. That was so important to me that I wouldn't have told anyone even if I'd seen them earlier the same day.

I assume she wanted to tell her mum first. It would be weird to tell a random cousin she'd drifted apart from before she told her mum.

Yes you're being precious OP, sorry.

It sounds like she had her 12 week scan the day of or the day after the catch up, and wanted to wait to know the baby was fine which is absolutely her right.

We didn't tell a soul until I was about 14/15 weeks, and like a previous poster we wanted to tell certain people first, so we told them first even though we'd seen other people on that same day.

I hosted a big party with all of my cousins on one side of the family on a Saturday (23 of us plus partners and kids), had my 12 week scan on Monday and then had to text them all to tell them. I didnt want to say anything until I had the scan and had told some other people.

It's definitely not about you.