It's happened again, holiday soon and I haven't lost weight

[ElsaMars]

I always plan to months in advance. I even took Rybelsus this time, lost a bit put it back on.

But this thread is not about that, it's more asking, how to not punish/berate myself about this and how to not feel self conscious and unhappy on my holiday?

I know I will feel a bit miserable about it when I'm there but what I want to do is just enjoy myself, we're going in a family group and everyone else is thin.

I think need a mantra or something that resonates to say to myself so I can feel better about it maybe?

This isn't something I'm proud of feeling, so try to be kind :)

I just keep reminding myself that most people feel self conscious in holiday wear. Just embrace your body

Just relax and enjoy your holiday. I assume this is something you've been looking forward to and have spent a lot of money on? Well enjoy it!
Your body is only of interest to you. No one else cares. There will be plenty of overweight people wherever you go and no one will bat an eyelid if you're carrying a few extra pounds.
Have a great time and focus on making healthy changes when you're back.

I know it's not particularly helpful but this always makes me smile. I feel for you sister!

Go shopping! You need some nice new clothes that you feel good in. Hot weather doesn't need to mean lots of exposed skin all the time, unless you are actually in the water (and even then, there are lots of options for stylish covered-up swimwear these days). Better for UV exposure too. You deserve to enjoy a holiday just as much as your thinner friends do.

Your friends and family know what your body looks like and they don't care.

I agree that shopping for some flattering holiday clothes might help make you feel better.

"How to get a bikini body? Put on a bikini and enjoy yourself".

OP do you have children? Daughters? Nieces? Would you want any of them to feel like you do now? That they have to lose weight to go on holiday? That they don't like their bodies. They need to cover them up and can't enjoy their holiday?

Get yourself some lovely new clothes that fit (not a bit tight but I'll squeeze in). Hair cut, manicure and pedicure.

When you are older I guarantee you will not regret being a bit bigger on the beach then you wanted, but you will regret not enjoying yourself. Any children won't remember your weight or figure, but they will remember you joining in and having a great time (and conversely they will remember if you don't).

OP I do get and have felt the same - getting older helps - you definitely care less!

I agree with this. I think British people believe they have to expose a lot of flesh in the sun to feel cool, and therefore they need to be thin. When I go to very hot countries I notice the locals actually cover up. They often wear very light, thin long sleeved tops and long skirts or trousers. I've started doing the same (particularly because I have varicose veins). I have to say my legs feel much cooler when I'm wearing light linen trousers than if I were wearing shorts. I dislike that feeling of the sun burning my bare sun - and it's dangerous.

This is me every year! And I agree, go get yourself some nice clothes and accessories etc. I would almost punish myself by not getting nice clothes and squeezing myself into stuff that was too small and would make me feel even worse about myself.

We deserve nice things too!

There's no moral failure in being overweight. There's no moral superiority in being thin. It's not something anyone needs to feel pride or guilt about.

People who are thinner find it easier to be thinner than people who aren't. People who exercise more find it easier to fit exercise into their lives (for whatever reason) than people who don't. People who have quit smoking found it easier to quit than the people who are on their third go. People who drink moderately find it easier to do that compared to people who struggle with that and are still trying to cut down.

People who excel at maths find maths easier than people who don't. People who pick up languages quickly find that easier than people who don't.

Please cut yourself some slack and enjoy your holiday OP. You aren't any sort of failure for carrying a few extra pounds along on the holiday with you. You didn't find it easy to lose weight. Never mind. There's no guilt needed, it just wasn't easy. Lots of things aren't - everyone has different things they find hard. We still all deserve a fun holiday x

Thank you all. I do have daughters and I would hate them to feel like this. I have bought new clothes etc, that is sometimes a trigger in itself, bigger sizes, 'failure' etc but I do feel good in them, so I will keep that in my head.

The strange thing is that the most attractive woman I've ever met, was about a size 18 and she looked great! Being female can be a total mindfuck.