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berrytree2024 · 13/05/2024 11:43

My DD is nearly 6 and in Year 1.
She is happy and enjoys going to school etc , she gets invited to birthday parties etc ..
It's just when I ask her who did she play with a lunch she tells me she asked such and such to play with- and they want to play on the field / or including such and such...and she either doesn't want to do that or would what she calls "hides" until she spots someone she wants to play with 🤷🏻‍♀️
I have noticed there a firm groupings and best friends who always seem to find each other at lunch or play...but it's like she wanders about / on her own?

How can I advise or help her..
She often says " I want to play with who o want to play with " I do t know wether she's making it difficult for herself or it's tall tales from 6 year olds Blush

Sorry for the ramble !

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butterflywingss · 13/05/2024 11:56

In some way of a similar situation. My DD is year 2 and she comes home sometimes saying no one wants to be friends with her or that she asks and they say no. It's so hard as parents because I can't go in her playground and play with her but it worries me that she now tries to do things to impress these 'friends' or wants to copy because sje may think she's not good enough. I have spoken to her teacher and she says she's not aware but when my DD comes home with the same things over and over, they are clearly not observing.

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berrytree2024 · 13/05/2024 12:25

Thanks for your reply @butterflywingss
It's not that they say no - it's the case of who she can find to play with...
It's like she doesn't assert herself into finding the friend ..
I've said to her to play more with the girls in her class but then I hear she plays with some of the boys, in different class etc...

She had a close friend in reception but unfortunately he's a boy and he's made a boy gang of friends now and it's tailed off a bit
He doesn't want to be "best friends" anymore

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butterflywingss · 13/05/2024 12:28

berrytree2024 · 13/05/2024 12:25

Thanks for your reply @butterflywingss
It's not that they say no - it's the case of who she can find to play with...
It's like she doesn't assert herself into finding the friend ..
I've said to her to play more with the girls in her class but then I hear she plays with some of the boys, in different class etc...

She had a close friend in reception but unfortunately he's a boy and he's made a boy gang of friends now and it's tailed off a bit
He doesn't want to be "best friends" anymore

This is also another case of my DD, one day it's no one wants to play and another day it's this exact thing. My DD keeps trying to stick to this 1 girl who she's been friends with since reception but they fall out a lot and this 'friend' I think may be finding my DD a bit overwhelming. I have told my DD to try and expand her friendship but she says they all have their little groups and it's probably too much for them.

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berrytree2024 · 13/05/2024 12:43

@butterflywingss it's so so tricky isn't it!
And you just want to go into the playground and see what's really happening...

Maybe someone who's been through it all with older kids can help...

In the meantime I can help by telling stories of when I was in year 1 I had a friend like that or I started making new friends etc
Rather than lecturing...maybe she will hear what happened to me etc...

I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️

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