What happens when you are depressed for the first time and need to go to the doctor

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I think I might have some depression. It likely hit me last year. I know my bedroom I can't stomach to clean it and it's been a mess since last year.

I buy good foods and vegetables every week with good intentions of cooking and making meals but I just can't bear to bring myself to cook much may more.

I am losing the joy in my hobby-knitting. I still have a passion for it but I can stomach to take out my project.

There's so much going wrong that's bring me here.

• long term harassment from someone with low self esteem and is blaming me for every piece of her bad feelings and wants me to fix her. I don't engage with her. The cops didn't care to help me because she's not threatening violence.
• I have concerns about my mother not behaving well and I would nearly lean towards a behavioural type of dementia. Its nearly as of she's forgetting how to behave properly.
• a job that is very demanding and I am weeks behind on paperwork.
• me and my partner are in a relationship but it's sexless and the sexless ess first happened from his side. A few years went by where we only ever have sex maybe 2 or 3 times a year. Now I can't even bear to sleep with him.

Those are the man contributing factors.

I got my hair done a few weeks ago and my hair did not turn out like the inspiration picture and it would have been a huge boost to me and my morale. I now need to go back for a better blend and I have an appointment later this week with my work threatening my time and it might now look like my work wants me to work.

Everyone wants a piece of me.

Everything has hit me altogether.

I likely became depressed last September approx but I kept going.

Everything now is too much of a burden and I am finding it hard to cope.

I'm definitely approaching a place where I need support from my GP. My nerves are shot.

I am not good.

Well done for recognising that you need help - sometimes people get to the point of cracking completely before this happens.

Usually, you go to the GP, tell them how you are feeling, they will go through a little depression questionnaire thing with you (usually verbally) and suggest a treatment plan based on the results.

Usually, if you aren’t in a severe mental health crises I.e an immediate danger to yourself or others, they will suggest some resources (helplines, mindfulness apps, lifestyle advice, books on prescription) and suggest whether medication or therapy may help.

A word of warning, therapy is likely to be a few sessions of CBT and the waiting list will be months to years long.

The GP may ask see you in a week or two to see how you are getting on, especially if you have opted for medication - they like to monitor people who start meds as things can be a bit rocky when you start taking them.

One thing GP’s SHOULD absolutely do when anyone presents with a depressive episode is a blood test. In my experience they rarely actually do this. It is worth asking for a blood test to rule out depression caused by an underlying issue e.g thyroid problems, vitamin deficiencies and iron deficiencies.

Treat the Gp visit as the first step in your journey to coping/feeling better. Don’t expect to go in and be offered a magic fox, it takes time.

I meant magic fix, not magic fox 🦊

It's not therapy that I need. There's so much shit dumped on my back and all of is a burden now. It's too much.

• I need help from the cops and they washed their hands of me.
• I need help from the GP with my concerns about my mother and they took washed their hands of me.

These are the two biggest challagnes in my life because it's never ending abuse from the two different angles. Years of harassment and a hate campaign just to now be faced with my mother and her failing mind - she's horrible and abusive in her tone, language and behaviour.

If the professionals that I needed help with before helped me I wouldn't be here carrying this load.