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Daughter suddenly changed

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PrincessConsuelaBag · 12/05/2024 19:24

My daughter is currently someone I don’t recognise. She’s always been on the go and what I would call a bit of a wild child.

Recently though she’s changed massively. Suddenly developed extreme separation anxiety. Mostly to me but also to her Nan. This has lead to her running away when getting to school and having to be taken in the the teachers. She goes in to fight or flight mode I think.

She has lost weight, snacks and only really eats cereal. I can’t remember the last time she had a meal, she used to be a bottomless pit!

Struggling to get to sleep, often still awake come 11pm.

She seems to have developed an obsession with getting fresh air!? She’s asked school to eat outside as well as family members. She HAS to have the window down in the car and her bum doesn’t even touch the seat because she’s trying to get the fresh air on her face!?

She is so obsessed with wanting to do something, last weekend she spent the day out doing various things, when she got back she still wanted more. I feel like there is no satisfying her.

GP didn’t seem overly concerned and has arranged a blood test. I took her to the GP because she was lethargic and seemed to be pale/bruise easily. She seems to be more energetic now.

Has anyone else experienced this!? She’s 9.

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PrincessConsuelaBag · 14/05/2024 09:52

This morning was awful. Running and hiding away from school. All I heard when leaving was her screaming let me out. I’m so worried I’m doing the wrong thing by her.

just booked GP.

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JiraffDeSaki · 16/05/2024 21:11

Poor little thing - I remember the feeling well, although my mother went mad at me so I couldn't have refused to go in. I just spent the whole time at school silently crying and saying nothing, sometimes for weeks at a time. It was torture but I'm talking about 45 odd years ago when I'm not sure anyone knew the word "emetophobia", and certainly no one gave a toss about children having poor mental health. No such thing!

It's hard for you too, I know - so difficult to know what to do, but you've done so much already just by being there and listening to her. Glad you are booking the GP. Have you tried coaxing her to talk about her fear a bit more? Sometimes "getting it out there" into the light of day helps show it for what it is - an irrational fear - but at 9 she may not benefit from that. Personally - I was about her age, and being able to talk openly about what I was actually scared of would have been helpful. I couldn't really put it into words at the time - a kind headmaster tried, but I was so frightened of getting into trouble at home for "being naughty" I just clammed up.

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