How much would you give as a wedding gift if cash requested?

[shepherdsangeldelight]

Not been to a wedding in years, so not sure of done thing now.

Bride is an old school friend (we're in our 50s). We chat fairly frequently and try to see each other at least once a year, but we live a fair way apart and have our own families and lives and are obviously not as close as we used to be.

It's a second marriage (if that matters) for both of them. Wedding invite does the thing of saying they don't expect presents but would prefer cash if we do want to give something (it says it more politely than that)

I appreciate it will vary but ballpark figure of how much you'd give?

In that kind of situation from me and DH I would probably do £40-50.

It depends what I could afford but probably at least €50 if I was attending solo and if I was attending with my husband €100 from us both. That would be pretty standard here (and probably on the miserly side) in Ireland.

£50, from me as a single person.

£30 I'd say.

€200 or £150 minimum, but Irish norms are different!

I'd say £100 for a couple.

In my culture we only do money, and usually depends on what people can afford. However, norm seems to be from £50 to £100 as a family

I normally give £100 at a wedding, but also think whatever you can afford and feels right to you is absolutely fine

Surely it depends on what you can afford!

Probably £50. But now thinking about it, I'd have given the same answer ten years ago, so I probably should increase for inflation.

Just to add some reasoning for my answer: We got married last year. Most of our friends / family friends gave us about £50 per couple , but most did have to travel and stay overnight to be able to attend.

Closer family gave anywhere from £100 to £1500, depending on relationship and financial status.

I think it’s utterly ridiculous that people in their 50s and on second marriages would request cash. Completely classless.

What about saying something like...
"I did that last time and look what happened! No point in me chucking more money down the drain..."

Actually probably best not to write that in the card, they sometimes read them out at the reception, ever since the Post Office stopped delivering telegrams.

Give a sum equivalent to how much you would spend on a gift. Maybe round it up.

I'd always expect to gift the equivalent of what they would've paid her head for a guest. So probably £75 per person.

£50.

£100 would be what I would do, but it totally depends on your circumstances. If this is not an easy donation then less is perfect.

£20 per person

£100. Whether a single or a couple. Don’t know why! Just feels like a decent round number!

£25

I agree