I used to have a group of girlfriends (4 of them that I brought together from various walks of life). One of the girls had a friend outside the group who she wanted to invite out with us sometimes. I loved getting to know and meet new people, so I liked when others joined us. However, out of the blue, the "added friend", sent me the most awful text message saying that I'm stuck up and look down on her. That I laugh at her every time she is around. That I think she's worthless because she was 5 years older and single with no kids. She called me all kinds of expletives in the process including a C U Next Tuesday. I was so shocked as I was friendly to her and liked her. I replied that I felt no such way and that I actually liked her but that I would proceed to block her with her having vehement dislike towards me. We bumped into each other a weekn or so later and she was all sweet with me and asked me for a lift to another city that I was going to with friends. I couldn't believe her audacity. I mentioned that I thought she didn't like me based on her text and she laughed and said she was just having an off day.
I mentioned this to the friend who introduced her to us and she said that the friend was sometimes like that via text. I was feeling super self conscious about how I came across to her and with no good reason!
Not long after mentioning this to my group of 4, I got married to my husband, they were all bridesmaids but during the hen do, they refused to do anything "nice" and kept complaining about things being expensive. One of the friends noticed the mood was negative towards me and said she would join me on any activity I wanted to do. Just before lockdown 2020 and a few months after my wedding, they all suddenly blocked me out of the blue except the one who had the friend from outside. I was heartbroken and completely in shock as one of the girls had known me since school and was my bestie. They always reach out to a friend of mine (who they only met at my wedding) and speak really positively of me and are curious how I'm doing. One is in touch with my sister (they only met during the hen do) and she also speaks positively about me and asks questions. I still to this day have no idea why they all blocked me. The one who didn't, always says "I don't know why at all" but I can tell she's lying. The whole ordeal has made me overly self-conscious. I was always the super kind one to everyone so I feel like advantage has well and truly been taken of me.
"The tongue has no bones but is strong enough to break a heart" - I couldn't resonate more with this statement. I've moved on and have really nice new friends but they still flash up in my mind every now and then