Can I end therapy by email?

[Fightingitoff]

Can I send an email to my therapist and just say I’ve decided to end it, there and then?

I’m sure I can, but I just wanted to say it to other people and get some moral support.

Last time I ended it, I spent several months discussing how I was thinking of leaving, until I finally managed it, and I don’t really want to do that again.

It’s online by the way, we don’t meet in person any more.

Absolutely. I whatsapped my therapist saying thank you for all your support but I've decided I no longer want to do this. She was fine. It's 100% your choice x

Yes, you certainly can. Just request a confirmation that they received the email so you won't be billed for a missed session if you're paying for it.

Yes you can i did it by text.
Mind you she did ask me why i replied with sorry i just dont want to keep talking about my past that i have moved on from its not what i was paying you for thank you for your time.

@earther was there a disconnect with why you wanted therapy and what the therapist thought you wanted to discuss and get out of it?

I wanted to talk about my anxiety and agoraphobia that was due to having an accident that happened 10 year ago and kicked started the above. But she wanted to know about my past to much from childhood upwards.
To her this was the cause of it all it wasent.
I paid on the day for therapy so she was paid up.

Sorry to hear that @earther. When STBEH and I went for marriage guidance she wanted to know all about my childhood and that pissed me off. It wasn't relevant and we were there because he'd had an affair. I think sometimes therapist get fixated and can't deviate. Of course sometimes they will be right but generally people know what is wrong and why even if they don't know what to do about it.

P.S. You don't need to give any reason at all, especially if the therapy hasn't lasted that long. But if you like, you can just say something very neutral such as, "Thank you for your help, but I don't think this is a good fit so I've decided not to continue the sessions." And do get a confirmation.

Thanks to all.

Not a problem unless you want to return. Maybe have a conclusion session, to keep the door open. It’s perfectly reasonable to have a break to assimilate all the learning.

Do you even need to formally end it? Just don't book another session?

That’s not how it works. We speak every week at the same time so it doesn’t get booked, it just happens.

You absolutely can. Even if you do want to continue with her at any point. And you don’t have to give a reason.

It just happens...forever?

Yes, just email and say you've decided not to continue at this time.