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Need to loose weight/ get fit but zero motivation

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iloveallthis · 10/05/2024 09:48

I really need to get into shape and maybe loose a stone possibly two.

Has anyone conquered this middle age / menopausal can't be bothered sort of stage.

For context I am a carer to my difficult ASD child.
I have a job ( most of my younger colleagues are botoxing/ fasting/ working out)
I have arthritis.
I'm already on antidepressants (which are working quite well.)
I'm on HRT

I just need to look in the mirror and think I need to do something instead of thinking I'm fine.

If you are still reading and know how to motivate me or have any advice I would love to get some advice.

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NigelHarmansNewWife · 10/05/2024 09:51

Make it about creating new habits instead. So go for walk, or whatever it is you want to do, every day. Start with once a week or every other day for 10 minutes at a time and build from there. Weight loss is 90% down to what you eat and you need to create a calorie deficit. Treat exercise as for health rather than weight loss.

Whiskers4 · 10/05/2024 10:00

For me determination worked, so in next few days start buying/trying different foods and decide you're going to make a difference for your health and the way you feel about yourself. Maybe start a thread on the weight loss section, that helped me reporting on weight loss or even stable for the week, how we were managing tricky situations like a meal out, then reporting jeans feeling looser etc.

BigDahliaFan · 10/05/2024 10:02

I have.

I'm 55 and menopausal and was on HRT but have had to come off it.

I'm about 1 and 1/2 stone lighter than I was this time last year when I was the heaviest I've every been, the most unfit I'd ever been and not happy about it. I've still got a stone (and maybe a bit) to lose, but if I lose that by Christmas I'll be happy.

I started off by being honest with myself that a dog walk every day and a Pilates class once a week that I hardly ever went to wasn't cutting it health wise.

I got my BP monitor out, dusted it off and was horrified and am now on meds.

I started small, going to Pilates and walking quicker on the dog walks.

I joined a gym - and go 3 times a week to a weights class. I won't say I enjoy it but I do it and I like the fact I feel fitter.

I looked honestly at my diet and now I (mostly) eat 3 proper meals a day, protein, lots of veg, and carb. And I've stopped snacking and drinking alcohol (unless there's a genuine good reason for it).

It's been slow but it's genuine actually quite small changes that have made a huge difference and become habits.

I feel better having got off the sofa and stopped stuffing my face with crap.

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Peridot1 · 10/05/2024 10:04

I would try and reframe it in my head. So it’s not about losing weight but about having more energy and eating well and doing some exercise will lead to that. And as we get older we need to do weight bearing exercise.

So if I eat well I will have more energy and feel more able to exercise. And the exercise doesn’t have to be huge long gym sessions. A daily walk building up time and pace is great. For your mental health as much as physical.

Movinghouseatlast · 10/05/2024 10:06

I think the menopausal lack of motivation is a huge factor. It's very difficult to explain to people who haven't experienced it.

Before menopause I went to the gym 5 times a week but now I can barely motivate myself to go for a walk. Can't even be bothered to do things I enjoy.

I have started testosterone as part of my HRT and I do seem to have a little motivation back. It's only prescribed for lack of libido though.

suki1964 · 10/05/2024 10:20

Thats what kicked my arse into gear, seeing myself in a full length mirror in just my knickers, not posing, just me in my normal saggy mode aged 58 post menopause

I was at that time off sick, had to pack in my last job due to injury and was looking at getting back into employment and I saw me and thought, how on earth would anyone employ me looking like this?

Walked myself into SW two days later

I know people say is doesnt work, its a cult and all that. I tend to follow some of the plan, I go mostly for the accountability. But I do kind of do the "plan" as in I keep the carbs low and wholemeal, eased off the fats, eat lots of fruit and veg, lean protein, am mindful of the sweet treats and Ive gone from wearing a size 14 jeans last April to a size 8 today

I walk. I walk and walk. Walking is cheap and easy and is available 24/7 - just have to open the door and out you go

When I first started walking it hurt, my back ached, legs, feet, joints - I used to hurt everywhere and struggled with the smallest incline. But I still went out every day , all through the winter as well - out I go. I no longer hurt. My flexibility has improved , so now I do some home exercises - lunges, squats planks etc - low impact

Last April I was on Sertraline , and popping co codomol like sweeties , needing ibuprofen gel 2 to 3 times a day and even needing the odd Tramadol to manage my joint pain - Ive not taken as much as a paracetamol this year so far

Added benefit was my flushes diminished

By August I felt confident enough to apply for a customer facing role in hospitality ( Id been behind scenes for years so it didnt matter what I looked like ) I got the job and Im so happy in it

The weight loss is slow, I dont get the "first weight in and 6lb off ", I get "1/2lb loss this week" lol and for a while it really was disheartening but I came to realise it was still coming off so what I was doing was fine.

Even though I no longer need to lose weight, I stick to what Ive been doing. I keep up the exercise cos I really enjoy it now. I keep to the healthy eating but dont say no if we are out for a meal and Im happy with the balance. I still have a belly - post menopause the fat distribution changes and the only way thats going to go is with weights which I cant do due to said injury

Im going into my 60's a lot healthier and happier. The healthy is so important to me, a woman in work who I actually thought was in her late 50's early 60's but was actually just 50, had a heart attack three weeks back. Like you Im a carer, I cant afford to not look after myself now

BigDahliaFan · 10/05/2024 10:58

I look at the younger ones at the classes at the gym (it's very mixed there are all sorts) and what they can lift etc.

But I think, I'm there, I'm up early, and I can plank better than most of them so who cares if I'm still on the baby weights rack ....

iloveallthis · 10/05/2024 13:52

Thank you all I am feeling motivated having read this.

I probably need to stop comparing myself to 30 year olds and just concentrate on best for me.

Definitely feeling that the creating a routine is key.

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Daz2424 · 10/05/2024 18:17

Hi everyone
Haven't reached out on here for a while.
Just need a little advice.
50 yrs old with Zero motivation more so due to my symptoms and mood.
16 months since last period so definitely post menopause
Past week my symptoms are in full swing. Lots of hot flushes. feeling really down and weepy. And really bad body aches and pains . Skin feels sore to touch and my Lower legs feels like I've got shin splints and feel reall heavy.
Not sure if this is related to menopause or not but feeling really fed up with it all.
Not taking any hormone replacement
Any advice would be grateful

Thanks

iloveallthis · 11/05/2024 16:25

@Daz2424 bumping this for you.

I have no advice other than speak to your GP about HRT hopefully someone else will post.

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