Just typed a massive post as there's so much to this situation but no one needs to read the whole saga so I'm going to try to be brief. My NDN is an elderly man with dementia who lives alone. We were neighbourly until he really started to deteriorate and became overly demanding (knocking my door up to 20 times in one day at its worst) and eventually aggressive, trying to force his way into my home on one occasion because he was convinced my house was his.
We worked with the housing association (we're both tenants) and adult social services to put measures in place to solve some of the issues (increased carer visits etc) and then simply stopped answering the door, which seemed harsh but was really the only thing that helped. Eventually he stopped knocking and things have been quiet for a while.
Except now he's started up again in a slightly different way, everytime I leave the house he's there, I can't go out to my bin or accept a delivery without him appearing with another (imagined) problem, yesterday it was that his dog had escaped, he doesn't have a dog. He's clearly ill and confused but he's crossed the line again today, I arrived home and he appeared before I could get to my front door. He was saying he'd had some sort of problem with his lights last night and I was listening but trying to get to my door to unlock it at the same time and he pushed himself between me and the door so I couldn't get past and get into the house and refused to move. Fortunately my other neighbour (who knows all the history) saw what was happening and came over and she managed to distract him and defuse the situation but I'm not sure what I would have done otherwise.
I know it's the illness rather than him and not his fault but it's starting to scare me now, he comes across as though he thinks he's entitled to my time/help and gets really annoyed if I don't seem willing or am busy/on my way out. I've spoken to the housing officer and social services today and reported what's been happening again but, on past experience, I'm not confident there will be much they can do. What else can I do? It feels a lot like harassment if I'm honest but it seems horribly cruel/dramatic to report an elderly, ill man to the police, although maybe that would trigger more help/action from SS? He really needs to be in residential care now (his son agrees) but he's somehow still deemed as having capacity (?!!) and obviously doesn't want to leave his home.
Sorry, that still wasn't brief was it! Any advice would be massively appreciated, I genuinely don't want to make his life any worse than it already is but it's getting too much.