Hi mum's and everyone else.
I have sat and thought about this for a long time so please share with me you opinions as its greatly appreciated.
I had my amazing daughter at the start of lockdown as we all know there was no visitors allowed. I had to stay in hospital for 1 week after giving birth with no support or anyone by my side whatsoever. As a new mum I didn't no anything and was left on my own.
I was soo scared holding my tiny baby I was scared I was going to hurt her if I changed her clothes, nappy, fed her or holded her the wrong way, I didn't know if she had drank too much of her bottle or she hadn't drank enough and was to hungry. When I put her in the cot next to me I was worried I hadnt put her in the right position or if she was cold or to hot or even how to swaddle her.
There was no support from the midwifes that was there as they were that busy they could not sit down and show me the things I didn't know. They just about had the time to do there general check ups and obs on me and my daughter.
Ladies I feel like there is no support for mothers after birth. We read all the books and have all the apps leading up until the birth we read everything we possibly can about labour and how things work. There is loads on antenatal classes preparing us all for the labour and getting are bodies ready but the one thing I needed more than all that was for someone to show me, talk to me and guide me through how to look after my baby.
I felt like I was left on my own half an hour after giving birth with no support whatsoever and I had to guess and be hopefull that what I was doing was right.
I know I had my baby in lockdown and it was a hard time for everyone but being on my own without my partner by side it was the scariest time of my life with my precious daughter in my arms.
I feel like there is no classes or no articles to ead or no support from anyone after birth to that show you how to hold a new born baby how to change them in a way you feel confident your not hurting them, show us how to swaddle them, how to wind them in the correct way. Because ladies we know we have all sat there for atleast half an hour pating an rubbing are babies back trying to get there wind up.
No one shows us how to bathe are babies and how to treat there tag on there belly button.
Sometimes all you need is for someone to tell you your doing the right thing and I really don't think there is that support in the hospital.
I do think there should be a specialised team that focuses souls on supporting the mothers after they have gave birth as I know the midwifes work sooo hard and are too busy to do this.
Please let me know your views.
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