A gift a month for 40th

[booklover164]

DH is turning 40 soon. I'm struggling to know what to buy him. He has everything he needs really but with 3 small children, we rarely get any time together. I was thinking of getting him a gift a month for 12 months. Is this naff? Does anyone have any ideas about what to get? These are my ideas so far:

Beauty treatment
Lunch out
Football ticket
Cinema trip
A physical gift ie a new jumper
Wine tasting
Homemade meal of your choice

I think it’s a very sweet idea and I would love this!

More ideas:

• new shoes
• ‘months supply’ of his favourite choc, crisps, beer, etc etc
• Blowjob coupons
• fancy pj’s or comfy trousers for around the house
• fancy slippers
• a good fleece or jacket that will last a long time
• a nice tie
• brewery tour
• go karting / VR place or whatever you have in your local area
• dart board
• Aftershave / fancy shaving kit or razor
• personalised car air freshener (of your face, etc.)
• fancy reusable coffee mug

These are great ideas thanks. BJ coupons 😂 there's quite a few he'd like on there!

I’m just wondering why you are heaping stress on yourself buying 12 gifts when you can’t think of 1 gift?

This!

I see your point but I can't think of one memorable more expensive item which you might normally get for a big birthday- watch, camera etc. With 3 little children we don't get much time together so I was thinking of doing experiences or time spent together instead- with a few lower priced physical gifts thrown in there for good measure.

If you have decent childcare ditch the kids and have a weekend away!

@LaVidaEsUnaBuenaAventura sadly we don't!

Ah boo, that's a shame.

cringing at blow job coupons aside... what does he enjoy? -For example, my DH loves books/reading and for one christmas present I bought him a subscription present from Mr B's Emporium https://mrbsemporium.com/ He had to fill in a little survey aimed at teasing out likes/dislikes and then every month he received a new book - they were all packaged so cutely and if you'd already read/had the book you could return it and they'd send another one.

You mentioned football tickets - which is his team - you can usually buy 'experiences' at grounds which can range from a tour round the stadium through to dinner with ex players or even training session with ex players.

Depending on the club, you might find it very difficult/expensive to get him a "football ticket". For lots of clubs it's nigh on impossibly to get tickets unless you're a member, or know someone who is.

Is he the sort of person who wants a big gift? If so, then it’s best he has a think and tells you what he wants.

I didn’t want a big gift and just wanted a nice meal out with friends (had an 8m old at the time so we did a lunch).

We are in a fortunate position where we can pretty much buy what we want, so don’t have to save for a big ticket item. Personally I would prefer to do a nice thing on the day than have a present a month for the sake of it, I think the novelty would wear off after the first couple of months. Lunch out, a jumper, or a homemade dinner wouldn’t really feel like a treat to me!

I think you will both get bored and resentful at one present a month. if things are tough for both of you then why is he getting 12 gifts?

It's making me think of when people got 40 little presents for a 40th and you just know each of those 40 presents is going to be crap.

A gift a month for a year seems ott to be honest. It will become tedious and a bit embarrassing after the second or third month.

I think it's a lovely idea but maybe don't gift him a lot of "stuff", keep it lighthearted or go with really small and at least semi-useful things.
Some of my ideas are:
Custom desk calendar with family pictures (obviously, only if he uses calendars, otherwise it would be tucked somewhere)
A framed romantic photo collage (could be a great idea for the month of your anniversary)
Love coupon book (there are templates you can use to make your own instead of buying pre-made one)
If he likes a particular character or lore, you can make a photo montage and insert him into a scene from the movie he likes (here is a guide on making a montage)
Then for his actual birthday you can do a birthday slideshow with his/family photos and a song he likes
Also songwise, you can create your own (there are free services like Musiclab) and dedicate it to him 😁