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Has anyone experienced the black/dead eyed stare of a narcassistic type?

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OnlyLoveCanBreakYourHeart · 08/05/2024 00:01

I can't remember what I was watching last night, but what ever it was - someone in it mentioned someone having the dead eyed stare of a monster. It resonated with me and has been bothering me all day. Long story short, my ex told me he had been told he had shark/dead eyes on more than one occasion, which I found really odd as he had lovely blue eyes. He also told me that he didn't feel, was an empty shell and had been told by a psychotherapist that he was a narcissist. I know, I should have run but that's a different story. Anyway, eventually I did and my soulmate and best friend turned into a monster overnight. But there was one time in particular after we split up when I really pissed him off. I walked away but felt compelled to turn around and when I did he was staring after me and his eyes were completely black and soulless. It was chilling and still makes me uneasy many years later. I did lots of research around it at the time and found a few articles that said that it was a thing, but as many saying it wasn't. But I know what I saw. So, I am wondering if anyone else has come across this? If anyone does know what I mean - does anyone know how it happens? And, if you do know - I am sorry you had to experience this and I genuinely hope you are ok now.

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 08/05/2024 09:36

Cuckoochanel80 · 08/05/2024 00:25

Could have written this one myself.

No contact with narcissists really is a game changer, should have done it years ago. My life would have been much happier.

The advice I once read (from a narcissist) is that if you ever have one in your life run as far and as fast as you can as soon as you can because they will ruin your life and not break sweat doing it.

Disturbia81 · 08/05/2024 09:39

So fucking creepy. Just shows what animals they are as that's what happens with predators who see their prey.

Monzoqquery · 08/05/2024 11:00

@MrsDanversGlidesAgain absolutely.
There is a very good fb page on it Helen villers in sight.

They are a species apart and unless you've experienced one it's hard to understand how everything is weaponised.

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Vastlyoverrated · 08/05/2024 11:07

People can have odd eyes in a psychotic episode, I've seen this twice with different people, and that's scary (for them as well as everyone around them). Not medication related.

As for narcissists, I'm always amazed how normal they look, as someone said, acting or living a double life with an inner emptiness is normal for them. I haven't lived with one so it may be the eyes might be different, I've just not noticed. I know two men, their behaviour with their wives/others is very extreme, but if you didn't know that, you wouldn't be able to tell for looking.

Vastlyoverrated · 08/05/2024 11:08

I do think the eyes thing though is excitement/arousal as what I've noticed with both men is that they deliberately take risks and cross social boundaries, even when given the choice not to do so- they find it thrilling, so that figures.

HaveABlastOfThisMatrix · 08/05/2024 13:54

Cuckoochanel80 · 08/05/2024 00:25

Could have written this one myself.

No contact with narcissists really is a game changer, should have done it years ago. My life would have been much happier.

@Cuckoochanel80 me too. I went NC with a narc family member - I caught her staring at me once with that empty look... It really freaked me out and I've never forgotten it.

Poundshop · 08/05/2024 13:59

I had a female boss who had the coldest eyes and was extremely frightening.

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