Childhood: learning difficulties, sexual abuse, parent separation no contact with mother. Self harming probably due to abuse.
Adult: brief DV relationship. Social services input due to risks . Father gets cancer have to look after him and watch him die.
2 evictions due to section 21 temporary accommodation for several years.
Child with autism, and learning difficulties. another with emotional disregulation. Another with bipolar, Dv from teenager due to emotional disregulation.
Daughter in dv relationship. That lead to heavy involvement of social services. Almost lead to her loosing her children. She had to stay with me alot weeks / months . Both of our families got urgently moved under life in danger.
I must add Dd has not followed my pattern. My situation was very brief my daughter was also only 9 months old at the time. She's now mid 20s.
I may not have always managed in the best ways. But i have coped completely on my own. Without any support at all. Many people would not cope with the things I have Been through.
There are lovely people on MN there really is. But there are a handful that are pretty judgemental. Which I have experience for many years.
Just because it has not happend to you does not mean it's not true . Because you think you have the answers does not mean you do. This is not meant to sound offensive. But in many cases there are long waiting list for help and a very strict criteria.
I have been accused of being many things and I'm not them. And I'm certainly not to blame and I put my children a million miles before myself.
This post will mean nothing to 99% of people on here . But I just needed to say it as its been going on for years.