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How do I deal with shouting/aggression at work

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Walkingwithdinosaurs · 07/05/2024 20:38

I started a new job about 6 months ago, first few months all normal, fairly nice environment to work in. However the CEO of the company has now relocated to my office. I am directly responsible to him and interact with him several times during the day.

It’s a fast paced environment and we are all senior level with our own responsibilities and projects to work on. However the CEO deals with things so badly on a daily basis that’s it’s upsetting me everyday. His nature is to just shout across from his office someone’s name and they have to go running to sort out whatever he requires. Asks for a project completed one way then changes his mind and I have to start all over again (sometimes this causes mistakes).

The last few weeks have become unbearable with him, anything at all can set him off, shouting across the office or at members of staff… in fact last week while I was on the phone to another company he shouted down the phone for them to hang up and call back later on as I was to busy to answer their questions at the time. The constant aggressive demeanour shouting, pointing and quite frankly scary behaviour is now at peak level. I don’t know how to handle it, I’ve never had a man act this way towards me and other staff. My anxiety is through the roof and I turn into a shaking mess.

I really enjoy my job and need it badly so any advice on how to handle this situation is much appreciated.

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Saz12 · 07/05/2024 20:58

Jeez, OP, that sounds awful.

HR with a "Im worried for his MH, but its unbearable being in this chaotic aggressive environment". If he's CEO, are there other board members you could approach?

Otherwise, could you muster a quiet, non-confrontational response...eg he yells for you, you go into his office, he keeps shouting. What could you say to stand up for yourself?

Supersimkin2 · 07/05/2024 21:02

Leave. He won’t. Bet he gets results and that’s what’s keeping him there.

Find somewhere slower with less pressure. On your performance.

Renamed · 07/05/2024 21:18

Results? It sounds like complete chaos!

Walkingwithdinosaurs · 07/05/2024 21:48

Saz12 · 07/05/2024 20:58

Jeez, OP, that sounds awful.

HR with a "Im worried for his MH, but its unbearable being in this chaotic aggressive environment". If he's CEO, are there other board members you could approach?

Otherwise, could you muster a quiet, non-confrontational response...eg he yells for you, you go into his office, he keeps shouting. What could you say to stand up for yourself?

I spoke to HR today while we were outside the office and she said that she would keep an eye on things. She is on the office one day a week so doesn’t see the full effect over the week.

@Supersimkin2 hes been there for around 12 years, yes he gets results but it negatively affects other departments unfortunately.

@Renamed 100% chaos most days… that’s the secondary aspect I can’t get work completed being pulled pillar to post

I really enjoy the work, my team & the clients but this is starting to ware me down

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unsync · 07/05/2024 22:12

What about the rest of the Board or the Chairperson? Any NEDs?

qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty · 07/05/2024 22:15

You need to leave, sod trying to change him.

qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty · 07/05/2024 22:16

HR won't do anything, if he's openly like this and has been there 12 years I feel it is just entrenched..

NigelHarmansNewWife · 07/05/2024 22:22

Hmm - in my experience some of these total arses actually respond to someone telling them the impact of their behaviour or just ignoring it. I wouldn't want to work for someone so unprofessional though.

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