Would you go?

[OligoN]

To a meet-up type of social event where the ex wife of a new person you’re seeing might be.

That’s the short version and the long version doesn’t add much to it.

I would definitely go if I hadn’t seen her name on the list of registrations.

I am separated 2 years, they more than 4, both very close to divorce. He has had a 3 year relationship in the meantime.

The new man is less than six months, and I like them as well as can be expected in the timeframe. I dont feel ill will to her, but would never let on I am seeing him, and it feels sort of sneaky to be in a social /make new friends situation with her.

what would you do?

How easy would it be to avoid her? could you get away with a quick hello or is it a smaller event?

I don’t know. 30 people registered. Last month 15 went.

No, I'd feel weird about pretending / lying if I ended up talking to her. Maybe go to the next one when your relationship is more established

I'm now really good friends with my exdh's ex fiance (before me), we met in a similar manner, whilst I was married to her ex fiance (no cross over, years between us), we struck up a polite friendship whilst I was married to him, but I'd now class her as one of my best friends. My ex hates it

Weirds me out thinking about that.

Sure why not? I had t go to things where my husband's ex was. We were perfectly civil to each other. It seems you already know her? Why does it matter whether she knows you guys are dating? Why can't you just behave as a normal couple?