Social services boundaries

[RealSheep]

Hello any advice is welcome.
I'm currently involved with social services
I can't live with my partner and they want to stop us from having contact.
Recently he gave them a letter which was meant for me but they read it first. Are they allowed to do this? They also wanted me to open the letter Infront of them to gauge my reaction but I refused.

Something must have happened for them to forbid contact?

Why are they saying you can’t live together or have contact? How do you know they have read the letter?

TBF if they are saying that he is that much of a risk you can’t live together and they don’t want contact I’d be less worried about their boundaries and more worried about my own.

From this I take it that they don't believe that you've cut contact, or believe you will go back to him.

I'd imagine that they are trying to assess whether you can genuinely prioritise safeguarding a vulnerable family member or whether it is more for show to SS.

More information needed.

I think it's hard to comment without wider context. Why is he passing a letter through social services to you? Did they request this? Were they concerned about abuse?

They don't stop contact for no reason, if you want to keep your children do as they say.

Your kids are more important.

I’m assuming there’s been abuse in the relationship and they’ve opened the letter to check he hasn’t sent anything abusive that they then pass on to you.

So presumably he's done something pretty terrible for them to stop contact as they don't do that on a whim. And you're still calling him your partner which indicates you've no intention of leaving him, in which case they'll view you as an accomplice and just as bad as him. I think they're wise to keep an eye at this stage and you'd be wise to cut ties and look after your kids

They consider him a pretty big risk from the sounds of things, so yes they can read the letter, as it seems they are concerned you can't safeguard yourself or vulnerable family members.

If you have kids, do as SS says and cut contact. No man is worth losing your kids!

Why are they involved in the first place?