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Currently sat in tears feeding 3 month old. DP, which I now say loosely, was on a night out and got back at 4am. Considering everywhere shuts at 2 I think I know where he's been. I think this the final straw and I'll be packing our things in the morning. I have nowhere to go but surely it's best to up and leave to figure it out than take any more of this crap?

I've got a 6 month old and dad left when baby was 15 weeks old so understand how you're feeling! You really need support right now, having a baby is huge! Where do you think he has been? Are you sure or are you tired and emotional? X

Try not to jump to conclusions
sometimes places shut at 2 then stay open for an hour, was he out with friends?

@tighterthancramp so sorry to hear that, how are you doing? I have my suspicions and my gut is telling me another woman's. He had met some friends but places here just don't stay open till that late

not everywhere shuts at 2. Could have been a lock in

@cranberrypi possibly, but I really don't think so on this occasion

I'm getting there 😊

You need to speak to him but don't do it now while he's full of drink. But even if there's not another woman would you believe it ?

Easier said than done, but try and not over think the worst thing. Your emotions could also be playing havoc. I don't ever go on nights out but if he was with his friends, maybe they found another place that closes later? Has he done something to make you feel this way before ? I would hold off making such a big decision, especially with a very small baby unless you are 100% certain he's done something to break your trust and there's no going back.

@tighterthancramp that's good, I'm glad to hear that.

I would believe what he says, I don't think he'd lie, it's a small place we live and no one keeps their mouth shut, it wouldn't take much digging if I wanted to find out anything and he leaves his phone around the house if I wanted to snoop. I just don't want to have to do that.

Why are you leaving and not telling him to go?

@butterflywingss he's done this before. Stupidly I stayed because of the baby coming and wanted the support. If this is a repeat then I think I need to go

@sashh it's his house

Your emotions will be all over the place. Ask him and go from there. You may be totally off the mark, he could have been lots of places but obviously in the deep of night with little sleep you'll think the worst

OK. Sorry I didn't mean to sound harsh.

Sorry this is happening but it will pass, you will survive, you will be happy.

Sorry to hear that OP, clearly doesn't deserve you and your precious baby. However, as some others have said given he's been out and probably had a drink, I would hold off just for now and if you're set on 100% leaving, make a plan about where you go because leaving with a baby and having nowhere to go, will be extremely tough. Do you have any close family that you could go to ?

Thanks all, now LO has dropped back to sleep I will try to too and speak to him later on once he's slept off the hangover.
I do have my parents but it's not ideal, not much space and don't want to be a burden with the baby in tow

How you feeling now op?

@tighterthancramp I was feeling better in myself. Got up, bought a coffee and took the dogs out with LO so was feeling in a better headspace. He's now just woken up with a raging hangover and turning things onto me, throwing nasty comments and insults.

Sounds like he's not a nice man generally, Op.

Good luck.

Why is he being nasty? Did you accuse him of cheating? What did he say?