Upset at husband - am I just being hormonal?

[Twiklo]

Hi everyone,
I'm 39 weeks pregnant and due to be induced on Tuesday.i I was also offered a sweep today (was in latent labour before that) and it started my labour. I'm now contracting but it's not regular enough to go to the hospital just yet.

My husband asked this morning if I wanted to go watch Star wars together tonight at the cinema. I said it depended on if my sweep worked.
It worked so I told him I couldn't go. He tried convincing me a few times but i declined.
He then asked if he could go by himself, I said it was up to him but I'd suggest he goes while I'm in the hospital in labour as I don't drive and he doesn't want me to take a taxi and I don't know how long it will be until I have to go to the hospital and the cinema is an hour there and back in the car. He then said "okay, but me missing the screening because of you overthinking this is exactly what I don't want". I know I can take an Uber but it's the comment that pissed me off.

I wouldn't be happy at all .

So you are in labour and he is pissed off about missing cinema tonight?

I'm lost for words.

I hope it goes smoothly for you and you feel supported and looked after.

Thank you so much

Surely he can just watch Star Wars at home?!

Is there anyone amongst your family and friends who can step in and behave like an adult and support you in the way that you need?

Words fail me. This is NOT you being hormonal.

Say what now? You are in labour? And he wants to go to the cinema and you take an uber to the hospital ? Have I lost my mind, or has he - this is out of order in my world.

He sounds utterly selfish. It's not you or your hormones.

You are NOT being hormonal.

Hes a big manchild - major ick.

Pissed off cos you're in labour and he can't go and watch Star Wars? How selfish of you.

I hope this is a one off and he's not a massive tit all the time.

Ditto!

surely this can’t be happening? His wife is in labour and he wants to watch Star Wars… in a cinema? Where phones are famously not allowed to be used?

Not being hormonal at all. He catn watch star wars anytime. This is a one off.

For God's sake what is he thinking of? He thinks he's going to go and watch a movie while you are in labour? is this the way he's going to behave afterwards? He sounds utterly selfish, completely thoughtless and to be honest absolutely stupid.

Drop him off at the nursery instead and get a proper adult to step in.

How old is he?

Hormones can lead to hot flushes, bad sleep, babies, cramps, reduced willingness to put up with shit and sometimes tearfulness, esp post natal.

Hormones can't create men who are dicks - they do that all on their own.

He's a thoughtless tosser

Please, please don't blame your annoyance at his appalling behaviour on your hormones.
You're having contractions and he says you're overthinking?
Is there a relative who can give him a shake and talk some sense into him? He's about to become a FATHER!

I can totally see his point. How could you expect him to miss a screening of a film that's only been out for between two and 47 years?

Once in a lifetime opportunity, that.

He's being an arse. If the cinema was 10 minutes away, I'd say maybe, but the last comment pushes him into "selfish bellend" territory.

Can’t you just cross your legs until it’s convenient you selfish woman.

Seriously he is being an utter dickhead, if it was round the corner fair enough but it’s an hour each way!

I would let him go and you go to your mums/sisters/best friends and do the whole bloody thing without him.

Urgh, I hope you never let him vwoom his lightsaber in your direction again. Selfish arse.

Ye Gods, and here's me thinking my DH was being a bit unreasonable for wanting to go for a few pints 5 minutes away this weekend when I'll be 37 weeks and thus technically due any time.

Of course you're not being unreasonable OP. Is this typical of his behaviour??

I’m sorry I really don’t know what to say.

I didn’t think it was legal to marry a 13 year old boy so maybe I’m just confused.

all joking aside OP, this can’t be the only example of the ‘man’ you’ve procreated with being an absolute man child weirdo so 🤷‍♀️ if I were you, I would be firstly making sure you have someone lined up to be with you for the birth who understands the concept of being there to support someone at a time like this and secondly, I would be planning the next few months from the point of view that you might be doing a lot of this alone and acting accordingly. Do not put yourself second, if he can’t support you properly, cut him out. Completely ridiculous. Star Wars!!!! 😲

I hope all went well/smoothly for you OP!
Did DH go in the end or did he realise what a complete and total mug he was being to his labouring wife?

This just reminds me of someone he I met once whose DP dropped her off at the hospital door then left her her to have a c-section with twins because he didn’t like hospitals. Poor thing.