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I thought dd was dead

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Justanotherday32 · 05/05/2024 17:47

I just wrote a big post to give some background but I deleted it . As I think I just want to say what happend yesterday.

Yesterday dd messaged me to say she's blocked her boyfriend she's had enough he's a prick etc . Sounded like she was just sounding. Then she sent a message saying the fucking prick has let himself in my house. When they have argued in the passed he's gone to collect his stuff . There's been no problems at all. Just a bit of sulking. He gets his stuff and gos.

So yesterday left it 10 mins i messaged dd to check on her no reply. Rang down her phone several Times no reply. I was getting ready to go to her house at the same time as calling her. Eventually she picked up. She was crying and screaming down the phone so much . It was distorting the phone she couldn't talk properly through fear. Managed to tell me he was hurting her. She was screaming no , stop it please stop . Don't do it please . Then there was a massive scream and the phone went dead ... I honestly though dd was dead . We called 99 during this time .

Adult ds was arriving at my house as I was about to leave. We saw my neighbour and asked her to drive us to dd place. Which she did. Police were already there and her now ex had done a runner. 4 people had called the police.

It tuned out that he had . Thrown her against the wall which caused her to smack her head. He hit her with a wooden broom. Sat on her so she could not moved and held her wrist so tight she could not move. He was threatening to kill her. In between all this he was saying he just wanted a hug . I also found out he had taken her phone from her put the speaker near her so I heard her crying out for help . Then he ended the call .

Hes out on bail now. A non molestation is being sorted out .

Apologies for any typos

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Apolloneuro · 05/05/2024 22:06

How unbelievably horrific for you all.

I know you will, but make sure you tell the school. They will support your grandson.

Further down the line, encourage your daughter to do something like the Freedom course and break the cycle of violent partners.

HcbSS · 05/05/2024 22:45

Justanotherday32 · 05/05/2024 20:50

He is the father they were together around 3 years. He won't be allowed to see baby alone . Social services won't allow that anyway. Dd is not allowing him to see baby until a proper plan in put into place.

My adult son does not live with me. He does know where we live. He's not likely to come here

Until a proper plan is put in place?

make that the 10th of never! He should not be allowed anywhere ear those kiddies, and if she lets him, neither should she!
She has been to hell and back and now needs to rebuild from bottom up, without him.

Justanotherday32 · 05/05/2024 23:01

HcbSS · 05/05/2024 22:45

Until a proper plan is put in place?

make that the 10th of never! He should not be allowed anywhere ear those kiddies, and if she lets him, neither should she!
She has been to hell and back and now needs to rebuild from bottom up, without him.

I agree. Social services are likely to be involved if he's to see the baby I should think they will say at a contact centre. He will refuse this. So will end up not seeing the baby anyway. I told her its up to.him to sort it out with professionals. Which I don't think he will do .

I don't think he should be seeing the baby at all . I think if you can hurt a woman you can hurt a child.

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BuckFadger · 05/05/2024 23:27

Get your DD to tell SS and the Police whatever needs to be said to ensure he is never allowed to see either of them again.

nocoolnamesleft · 05/05/2024 23:30

That must have been terrifying for you, and so much worse for her. Thank god she's okay.

Blueplantpots · 05/05/2024 23:38

Justanotherday32 · 05/05/2024 18:18

Sadly dd has been through this before so knows all the things that need to be done. Yes she's staying with me.

Shes better today. As can be. Been a mix of talking about the situation. Few jokes here and there.

Would the Freedom programme help or some counselling as if your DD has been through this before she could maybe benefit from these resources?

Justanotherday32 · 06/05/2024 08:59

Blueplantpots · 05/05/2024 23:38

Would the Freedom programme help or some counselling as if your DD has been through this before she could maybe benefit from these resources?

She has done them before. But maybe she could do them again.

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Justanotherday32 · 06/05/2024 13:09

Dd seems to think Social services won't become to deeply involved because she done the right thing straight away. She said the police have said the same. Adult ds is a policeman and he felt the police were sugar coating it a bit.

I pray dd is right and I'm over thinking . I'm absolutely shitting it that grandsons will be taken away. I keep thinking we will drop the kids to school and older GS will be taken during the school day . And baby gs will be removed to . It just feels like a fuck up. Closer to tomorrow its coming the more awful it feels.

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nocoolnamesleft · 06/05/2024 13:14

She acted immediately to safeguard the children. As long as she stays the fuck away from him, and calls the police if he tries to come after her, I'd expect social services involvement to be pretty light touch.

Justanotherday32 · 06/05/2024 13:17

nocoolnamesleft · 06/05/2024 13:14

She acted immediately to safeguard the children. As long as she stays the fuck away from him, and calls the police if he tries to come after her, I'd expect social services involvement to be pretty light touch.

She has been in a dv relationship before though. Where it went to PLO.

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CaptainCarrot · 06/05/2024 19:46

How horrific for your DD. And for her children. Her little boy had to ask the neighbour to phone the police? What an awful thing for him to have to do. But what a brave little boy. I really hope your DD can access the help she needs.

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