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How do you make new friendships at 30+?

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Upupawayole · 03/05/2024 21:43

Pretty much the heading really. I have a few friends but they either have their own families, or are preoccupied with the dating world. I'd love to expand my circle and make meaningful friendships.

I'm a single mum and have been for a few years. One grown child who does his own thing, one who is 9 and predominantly with me. When I'm home alone it gets lonely night after night. There's things I'd like to do, but the friends I do have often have plans with their partners and children.

I speak to people in work but no friendships outside of work, mostly because they too have their own families. How else do people go about making new friendships? Is there any groups you joined or hobbies you bonded over?

I was very ill recently and I think this has made me realise just how I really have almost nobody in life. The feelings of lonely have been present for quite some time however. Would love to know how to expand my circle. There's only so much you can really get from self fulfilment.

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AmberShaker · 08/06/2024 21:48

Hey 👋
Just found your thread and I totally get it! It’s so difficult and can become overwhelming. I’ve just hit 40 and realised I just never receive the same from people, I’m thoughtful and kind but I’ve got to a point where I’m beginning to think my kindness is taken purely as a weakness and I was just convenient for ‘friends’ when they needed me.

If you fancy a chat I’m happy to hear from you! Who knows could be a good friendship. 😊

GeckoFeet · 08/06/2024 21:52

The peanut app
Bumble app has a friends bit
Meetup.com
Local Facebook groups

Chat to parents at school and kids clubs.
PTA

CJ0374 · 08/06/2024 22:06

I'd like to know too! I've recently moved from a city to a quieter village. I love the place, its quieter, large garden, I feel far more relaxed etc. I'm an anomaly though around here. DH and I tried for 12yrs but couldn't have children. It feels like everyone here is either elderly or has children! I solely WFH which doesn't help either.
I looked into joining the WI, rotary, local gardening club and everyone was at least 30yrs older. Not that I mind that, but maybe I'm looking at the wrong groups.

whiteboardking · 08/06/2024 22:22

There's quite a lot of women's sports teams and groups around who welcome anyone. If you have a child then actively get involved in whatever extra curricular they do. Everyone is always crying out for helpers

Upupawayole · 10/06/2024 18:13

Really glad to get some responses on here. So hard to find your people! Especially when everyone's circumstances are often so different!

I'm still trying to figure it out myself. If I find a successful way of making new friends, I'll make the suggestion! At least I'm not alone in feeling alone. Together we're united in that.

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whiteboardking · 10/06/2024 22:24

Defo look at getting involved in whatever hobby your child has.

Copperoliverbear · 10/06/2024 22:31

Hobbies x

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